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Caught husband cheating but he does not want divorce

Asked by Female, 45, Married

Hi am married for 17yrs with 2 children. MY Husband who is a marketing manager went on deputation to shanghai leaving the family. Ther he met one foreign lady in a dating site and was involved with her for 6months .later he shifted to uk but Contin ue to meet that lady on her birthday travelling to shanghai and other places with gifts.When that lady wanted him to get into permanent relationship .he refused (as said by him after he was caught )he came back to the family .I noticed dome msg from his phone to a prostituye.he denied that he neber slept eith her but only spoke to find the rate.Recently also I saw him in adult friend find .com where he has put man seeking woman and dome messages to escort ladies again He denies that he only spoke to the lady.I found his old membership card of abfabparties.com and mingles.com.uk cards . Should I stay with this dishonest person or should I leave.My husband says he loves me andcmy kidscand doesn't want divorce.Am very traumatised. CAN YOU help me .; what should I do

Answer

Harish Bhuvanendran

Life Coach

Answered almost 5 years ago

Hi, The things that are mentioned by you, is a series of things that a person who needs to fulfill his bodily needs seek for and so you will find the person reaching out to fulfill his needs repeatedly. Given that you want to protect the family and the marriage has to be saved from both the parties for children's sake at least for the beginning stagesThese are the two things I would like to suggest you:1) Try to increase communication and spend some more time in building the existing relation that you have:Take a walk together every early morning and eveningHave a meal at least every day with each otherBoth of you spend one hour at least every day with you children2) Start building trust by getting more intimate with him and try to fulfil needs of both of you together.Hope this helps, Meanwhile we are always here to listen to what you have to say so write back to us and talk in depth about it so we can better help you out with this

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