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Confused about whether to divorce spouse or not

Asked by Female, 39, Married
I am confused about whether to divorce my husband or not.
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Komal
Counseling Psychologist

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help.

It seems that you are facing difficulty in your marriage and are confused about whether to work on it or to opt for a divorce. I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to be in especially with the kids involved.

Firstly, I would appreciate the courage in you for being able to manage so far. It certainly must not have been easy to do so.
Could you tell me a little bit about yourself and your husband as individuals? What do you both do?
Since when have you been married? Was it an arranged marriage or a love marriage?
What about your marriage makes you question whether to continue in it or not? When and how did the problems start?
How was your marriage before these problems started?
Is there anything that you have tried doing to manage the marriage so far? Anything that worked or did not work?
And lastly, how have you been able to manage so far? What has helped you to keep going?
Answering these questions will help me understand your situation better and enable me to guide you accordingly.

Secondly, how would you like me to help you with your situation? What is it that you are hoping to seek through this counselling process?

Please respond back to continue our discussion. Looking forward to hearing from you.
Warm regards.

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