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Could not save sister suffering from intracranial epidermoid cyst despite being a doctor

Asked by Female, 40, Married
I am feeling guilty about not being able to save my sister's life despite being a doctor.
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Salma Prabhu
Clinical Psychologist

Hello Doctor,
Thank you for writing to us. I m extremely sorry to know about your sister. May her soul rest in peace.
It must be very difficult to come to terms that your sister has passed away.
You are blaming yourself as being a doctor u must be feeling helpless and going back in your mind that you did not take the right decisions.
Death indeed is something that leaves many of us in that state of helplessness.
However you are aware that birth and death is a decision which is not really I our hands.
You give birth but you are a medium. You facilitate the process of birth. U r not the one who decides whether the life will come to this earth or no. Similarly as a doctor the senior doctors did their best. And death is not the decision of the doctor or you.
If her time on this earth was over., she would have passed away even if you had done the operation.
Also your sisters soul will not find peace if you keep blaming yourself and go into depression.
So look at all the things she had done in life, talk about the nice presence and essence she left behind, remember her fondly and get going in helping others who need you.
Her soul will be peaceful only if she sees you peaceful.

I pray you find your peace and ur purpose.

With magical love


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