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Crush on a girl who is already in a relationship

Asked by Male, 28, Single
I am in love with a girl who is already in a relationship. What to do?
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Counseling Psychologist

Hi Writer,

Thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help.
It seems that you are facing difficulty in dealing with your emotions about a particular girl you seem to like a lot, although you do not seem to know each other very well and are just what you can call acquaintances. Although you have come to hear from a friend that she is in a relationship with somebody else, you cannot stop thinking about her and wish to express your feelings to her, lest you regret missing the opportunity later only to think about "what if...".

I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to be in having to deal with such strong urges and emotions daily and not being able to do anything about it.

Firstly, I would appreciate the courage in you for being able to manage so far. I can imagine that this must not have been easy for you.

Secondly, how would you like me to help you with your situation? What is it that you are hoping to seek through this counselling process?

Please respond back to continue our discussion. Looking forward to hearing from you.
Warm regards.

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