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Depressed after being cheated on

Asked by Female, 24, Single
my boyfriend cheated me but he still says he didnt and his parents r nt ready for our marriage im really depressed i cnt live witht him plz help
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Indu Padmakumar
Counselling Psychologist and Special Educator

Hi,
From what you have said about your boyfriend, it seems like you both are in different places in your relationship.
You suspect him of cheating on you, but he hasn't been truthful about it.
The key foundation for every relationship is trust. If you don't feel like you can trust him, it would only complicate your life to continue to be in a relationship with him.
It seems like you are also upset because you want to get married to him, but his family does not seem to be for the marriage.
It is only natural to want to get married to the person you love.
But on the other hand, insisting on marriage during such a complicated time, would only put further pressure on your relationship.
I would suggest to take time to understand each other and see what you both want from the relationship. If you don't want the same things, it is probably better that you be with someone who does.
Communicating with each other would give you further clarity on your next course of action.
It's also important to take this time to understand and love yourself as well. Do things that would make you happy and independent emotionally.
All the best and I hope you find what you're looking for in life.

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