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Difficulties in marriage after 8 months of marriage
Asked by male, 27 yrs, married
It has been eight months since we got married but now there are difficulties.
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Komal
Counseling Psychologist

Difficulties arising in relationships is a natural phenomenon and resolving through them together is the growth of the relationship. However, if these difficulties become frequent/ intense and difficult to deal with over time for either or both partners is when it calls for attention. I sense from what you say that you feel lie it is too early for problems to be arising in your marriage, given that it has been only 8 months into your marriage. However, every couple is unique depending on the dynamics they share together.

For starters, identify the difficulties in your relationship. Explore what is causing them. Reflect upon what you are contributing to it and what you are bringing into the relationship before moving on to doing the same for your spouse as well. Next, explore ways to resolve them. Start small. Think about what changes you can make to turn things around. Implement them and then take the same to your husband and suggest him ways in which he can contribute to changing thins as well. Mutually come up with ways to tackle the difficulties in your relationship. Make it a point to follow them religiously and then gradually move on to taking on other steps. It is alright if the progress is slow, it's important the there is steady progress.

Here are two articles that you might find helpful:
https://www.askmile.com/blog/effectively-communicate-your-partner/
https://www.askmile.com/blog/simple-trick-change-way-talk-partner/

Thumb komal
Komal
Counseling Psychologist

Difficulties arising in relationships is a natural phenomenon and resolving through them together is the growth of the relationship. However, if these difficulties become frequent/ intense and difficult to deal with over time for either or both partners is when it calls for attention. I sense from what you say that you feel lie it is too early for problems to be arising in your marriage, given that it has been only 8 months into your marriage. However, every couple is unique depending on the dynamics they share together.

For starters, identify the difficulties in your relationship. Explore what is causing them. Reflect upon what you are contributing to it and what you are bringing into the relationship before moving on to doing the same for your spouse as well. Next, explore ways to resolve them. Start small. Think about what changes you can make to turn things around. Implement them and then take the same to your husband and suggest him ways in which he can contribute to changing thins as well. Mutually come up with ways to tackle the difficulties in your relationship. Make it a point to follow them religiously and then gradually move on to taking on other steps. It is alright if the progress is slow, it's important the there is steady progress.

Here are two articles that you might find helpful:
https://www.askmile.com/blog/effectively-communicate-your-partner/
https://www.askmile.com/blog/simple-trick-change-way-talk-partner/

Thumb komal
Komal
Counseling Psychologist

Difficulties arising in relationships is a natural phenomenon and resolving through them together is the growth of the relationship. However, if these difficulties become frequent/ intense and difficult to deal with over time for either or both partners is when it calls for attention. I sense from what you say that you feel lie it is too early for problems to be arising in your marriage, given that it has been only 8 months into your marriage. However, every couple is unique depending on the dynamics they share together.

For starters, identify the difficulties in your relationship. Explore what is causing them. Reflect upon what you are contributing to it and what you are bringing into the relationship before moving on to doing the same for your spouse as well. Next, explore ways to resolve them. Start small. Think about what changes you can make to turn things around. Implement them and then take the same to your husband and suggest him ways in which he can contribute to changing thins as well. Mutually come up with ways to tackle the difficulties in your relationship. Make it a point to follow them religiously and then gradually move on to taking on other steps. It is alright if the progress is slow, it's important the there is steady progress.

Here are two articles that you might find helpful:
https://www.askmile.com/blog/effectively-communicate-your-partner/
https://www.askmile.com/blog/simple-trick-change-way-talk-partner/

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