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Fallen pregnant, dumped by boyfriend after fight

Asked by Female, 22, Single
I am 22 years old. Me and my boyfriend had a fight over a 3rd girl few days back and he broke up with me saying that I am very insecure and possesive and he cannot deal with me anymore the next day I found I am pregnant. He still did not turn back and blocked me from evrywhere and went home. He is ignoring me now and I don't know what to do?
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Salma Prabhu
Clinical Psychologist

Hello,

You must be feeling so frustrated and cheated at this moment. Please imagine, I am giving you a warm hug and holding you with all the protection.

As you were already dealing with the unexpected behaviour, you got another news regarding your unplanned pregnancy.

It must be very tough for you.

Let me tell you that life is full of challenges and sometimes we are faced with very unexpected events and situations. At that moment we feel that this is so tough, why did I have to go through this. We feel hurt, angry, betrayed and all the negative emotions surface.

We also start introspecting and retrospective and even blame ourselves for getting into these situations..

We tell ourselves the were signs and signals that this person is going to do so but we probably did not pay attention.

But let me tell you that the very perfect design of life is that it throws challenging situations at us to make us realise how tough we are and how we are able to solve the situations also.

This is the time to trust yourself and also trust your instincts to give you the wisdom to make appropriate decisions. This is the time when you need to sit, calm down, and ask your own self. What you want to do.

This is also the time to seek help from the people who love you immensely and you are confident they will stand by your side.

Have faith in the design of the Universe and look for lessons to be learnt. Also very difficult, but forgive the person who has hurt you. Forgive because you want to be set free from the feeling of pain and hurt.

It is my personal experience that it hurts every time you think of it, but after forgiveness you shall become free. It will take time of course.

I pray that you get the best of support and love from people who value your presence and do not leave you by giving you excuses.

Also introspect deeply and meditate with ease.

With magical love

Salma

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