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Feeling miserable and anxious, unable to talk to close friends

Asked by Female, 24, Single
One of my friend is suffering from depression and she is miserable. She has friends but she don't talk to them,feels anxious also she said there are things she want to talk about but she is not able to break the ice to talk because she is scared that the person whom she is telling might let her down , she doesn't share more things not even to me.
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Chandni Gandhi
Counselling Psychologist

Hi,It feels really positive to see your concern  and care for your friend, and appreciate attempts you have been making to help her out First thing you need to understand is what happens in depression? how can you recognise that it is more then sadness and you need to take individual to doctor.You will notice changes in these like followsMood: anxiety, apathy, general discontent, guilt, hopelessness, loneliness, loss of interest, loss of interest or pleasure in activities, mood swings, panic attack, sadness, or emotional distress Behavioural: agitation, excessive crying, irritability, self-harm, or social isolation Sleep: early awakening, excess sleepiness, insomnia, or restless sleep  body: excessive hunger, fatigue, loss of appetite, or restlessness Cognitive: lack of concentration, slowness in activity, or thoughts of suicide Psychological: depression or repeatedly going over thoughts accompanied with : constipation, headache, poor appetite, substance abuse, or weight lossif you notice any such things its time to go for psychologist or psychiatrist to be sure that its not normal sadness but its depression.Now coming back to your role in it, what more can you tell her so that she opens up? you can tell her things like these, Remember to be good listener and not to give advice.""You are not alone in this. Im here for you" or, " You may not believe it now, but the way youre feeling will change."I may not be able to understand exactly how you feel, but I care about you and want to help."These words will encourage her to open, assure her that you can be trusted and you wont let her down by judging her and making fun of it or sharing it with others,  be it whatever.Hope this helps,Write back to us for more details

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