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Fights with partner about small issues

Asked by Female, 30, Married
We are not having a healthy relationship with each other.Very often we used to fight over small issue I am fed up of this.
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Pooja Hari Kumar
Counsellor & Special Educator

Hi,
I understand your frustration but in order for any relationship to work out first you have to understand the problem .
Without understanding the problem you will not be able to find solution.
This is where communication can do wonders for your relationship.
choose the right time to communicate with each other.
Talk to each other when you both are not frustrated , angry or tired .

When you first get upset or angry with your significant other, there are almost always two problems: your emotions and the actual problem.
So my suggestion would be to choose your battles wisely. Mostly the fights last longer because no one want to confront the problem . So until and unless you confront your problems you will not find a solution .The important thing is to express the issue as something that the two of you can work together to resolve and not to put the blame on each other.

Hope this helped you

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