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Girlfriend pays attention to me only when she feels like it

Asked by Male, 18, In relationship
My girlfriend speaks to me only when she wants to and otherwise ignores me. She talks to some other guy daily late into the night and that makes me doubt her. I have lost focus on my studies and I want to move on.
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Komal
Counseling Psychologist

Hi Laxman, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help.

It seems that you are facing difficulty in your relationship. You seem to love your girlfriend a lot but off late she has started ignoring you and talking to someone else till late into the night and you doubt that she is cheating on you. You want to save yourself from the hurt and hence move on from this relationship. I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to be in.

Firstly, I would appreciate the courage in you for being able to manage so far. I can imagine that this must not have been an easy time for you.

Could you tell me a little bit about yourself as an individual? What do you do? What does your typical day look like? What have you tried so far to move on? Anything that worked or did not work?
Answering these questions will help me understand your situation better and enable me to guide you accordingly.

Secondly, how would you like me to help you with your situation? What is it that you are hoping to seek through this counselling process?

Please respond back to continue our discussion. Looking forward to hearing from you.
Warm regards.

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