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Had a relationship with 6 years. Not getting married to someone else but feeling guilty and missing him badly

Asked by Female, 27, Single
I had a relationship for 6 years...my ex loves me a lot..but he was not ready for marriage..he was not giving me any assurance and also didn,t want my marriage with someone else.my mother fixed my marriage with someone else.I was not able to tell my parents.now I m feeling guilty that why I didn,t wait for him.I m missing him badly..and my future husband is very nice person..I feel that I m deceiving him..how to get over?
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Sneha
Psychotherapist

Dear writer, thank you for writing in. I understand you are feeling guilty, you are missing your ex and you want to move on. You said that you had been involved for 6 years with your ex, but how long has it been since you broke up with him? Also how long have you been engaged to your fiance? Also I'm not clear on the reason you broke up with your ex. Was it because he wasn't ready to marry you or did you break up because your marriage was fixed with another man by your parents? It seems that you didn't tell your parents about your ex out of fear. The point is, it seems like you are not yet over your ex. It takes time to move and to do that you have to accept the choices you made. Even thought you want to move on, ask yourself, what do you really want? Please do message to continue our discussion. Regards.

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