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How do I get over my recent break-up?

Asked by Male, 28, Single
My girlfriend broke up with me recently because she fell out of love with me. I am still in love with her. How do I get over this break-up?
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Counseling Psychologist

Falling in love does not guarantee that the other person will love you back as well. It’s a difficult truth to accept and painful.
Loving someone truly is not about possessing or owning them. If you love someone truly, you will continue to love them even if they are not yours or you might eventually move on if that it unbearable for you to live with. It might take a while to get past the sorrow, to accept the fate and to be able to heal again. You can only bring yourself to get used to the memories haunting you and/or becoming indifferent to them over time. The best way is to come to terms with the end of the relationship in healthy coping ways.
After a breakup there is a sense of abandonment, there is a sense of terror about the future, there is disappointment... there is a process of going from “we” back to “me”. At such times we only feel the desperate urge to not experience the pain we are feeling but that is disrespecting the relationship. A heart ache demands and requires the dignity of having felt the pain of it to be able to overcome it eventually.
Moving on from a relationship can indeed be a very difficult phase to go through emotionally. You are in pain over loosing someone. You take time to invest yourself in the relationship, build memories, make promises, see dreams together and then one day everything seems gone and your world is shattered.
Moving on does not necessarily mean that we cease to think of them or cease to love them, it only means that we have been able to come to terms with the end of that relationship. So, continuing to love and miss an ex, to me is a normal thing to happen. But it’s when the memories and the love hinders you from functioning and moving on with your life is when reaching out for professional help would be a good idea.

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