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How to correctly judge people?

Asked by Female, 34, Married
I am unable to judge people's characters, especially those who are closed by nature.
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Harish Bhuvanendran
Life Coach

Hello :)

Greetings for the day! I read what you wrote, so what I make of it is that you want to Judge people, and if you are unable to judge them, then what is the harm in it, Whilst you were typing I realized that there is a realization in you that you are aware of the state of mind that you are in and you want to get out of it.

Firstly you don't have judge people, you talk to people accept them however they are, for whoever they are and then you will know that acceptance is really simple and very easy to do, In that way you clearly know what they are for what they are, so you know when they are about to do something harmful to you, You can clearly make a safe distance with them and in that way they don't get to hurt you and at the same time you accept them full for what they are which gives you peace of mind.

Secondly, Dragging is just a frame of mind that you are in, the moment you decide that what you are accepting people for gives you peace of mind, it won't drag you much.

Do let me know if we can do something more in this case. Please do write back to us, if you have any doubts in this, we can co-create a space together wherein we can discuss more about this and come up with an action plan for you.

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