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How to make people like me?

Asked by Female, 29, Married
How can I make my colleagues, and especially juniors at work like me. I explain things with patience, but snap at them when they dont perform or meet my expectation.
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Madhuri Mohan
Counselling Psychologist

Hi first let me congratulate you on the effort you are taking to become a good leader. It is great that you want your colleagues to like you and makes for a productive, pleasant working environment. It is also good that you take time out to explain things to your colleagues and juniors. However, when you are explaining things to them, do you let them know what your expectations are and how you want the work to be done? Sometimes we may have expectations and assume that by just explaining a task those expectations are automatically communicated. This may not necessarily be the case as different people view the same task dfferently. Hence, it is very important for you as a leader, to be able to communicate your expectations and lay out what kind of results you are expecting from the task. When your juniors and colleuges know what is expected of them, then they will work toward achieveing the same. This will not only improve ytheir performance but your working relationship with them as well.

Another thing that yoy can do is to create a safe environment where your juniors or other colleagues are able to approach yu freely to discuss their problems. When you snap at a person. they become intimidated and will hesitate to appraoch you the next time they make a mistake. Understand that it is human nature for errors to happen, and when your colleagues make a mistake as a good leader, you need to hear them out with an open mind and then guide them to find solutions. When your colleagues feel confident to appraoch you and speak up, they will automatically like you more and you may even get them to work mroe productively.

I hope these tips help you. Just remember, you are on the right path and being a good leader is a learned behaviour that becomes automatic only over the years.

Feel free to reach out if you have any furthers queries or would like to talk somemore. Thanks :)

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