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How to overcome feelings of sadness at being left out?

Asked by Female, 36, Single
Hi, There are times I feel sad and left out. What should I do?
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Madhuri Mohan
Counselling Psychologist

Hi, let me start by telling you that taking the first step by coming onto this forum seeking help is a brave thing to do, kudos to you! While you have taken the initial step, it is very important for you to understand what makes you sad and left out. Knowing what triggers this feeling of sadness will help you understand better why you feel that way and we can work toward overcoming these feelings.

To start you off, let me give you a small exercise that you can do to help you identify why you feel the way you do. When you feel that you become sad, and/or feel left out, write down the actions that happened before you started experiencing those feelings. It could be as small an action as not having the right taste in your food. These could be your own actions or actions of others. Write down every little detail you can think off before you started feeling these emotions.

Then , I want you to put an order to them. The actions that are least capable of causing feelings of sadness to the most and give a rating from 1 to 10 to each of these. This will help you identify what are the triggers.

Do this for a week and get back to me. Once you identify the triggers, we can focus on dealing with the feelings. Together we will help you overcome these feelings. :)

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