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How to tell parents about exam failure due to low attendance?

Asked by Male, 20, Single
I'm a 3rd year B.tech student, who got detained in most of the subjects due to low attendance. I was told that I have been detained in 1 subject, and I told it to my parents, and it got really bad. Now I am told that I have been detained in 6 out of 9 subjects. I can't take this, and its too much to handle for me right now. I can't even imagine telling this to my parents. I'm really depressed, and feel like giving up on everything.
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Harish Bhuvanendran
Life Coach

Parents naturally become upset because they always have seen their kid as best and it is really important for their children to succeed. Even if they are fine with their children to perform average, but the society doesnt let them be at par with that, they always put the pressure of performance, eventually that performance pressure comes on the children as well.Always be honest about your grades, and dont let them ever find about your grades, because that makes them feel worse all the more. It is always better to tell them before hand and tell them the honest reason so as to why did you get bad grades, also since education is for your betterment as well, it is no harm in performing well. If you feel like crying, dont hold back. Do cry and apologising to your parents will be the next thing to do.Ask your parents to co-create a space with them, wherein you ask your parents about how you want to incorporate some effective technique changes in your studies. Letting them co-create the space with them, gives them a sense of workload even you possess and given their set of experience in life, they will always be equipped with helpful/ideas and experiences to help you out.Tell them real reason why you had attendance shortage, and I am sure that they will understand why you couldn't perform as expected by the college. If you want to discuss more on this, you can always message me and we can help construct a way to help you out of this state of mind that you are in, your parents would not definitely want you in a place where you feel like giving up on everything.Thanks :)

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