We take our user's privacy very seriously and will never, ever expose any personal details. All personal indentifiable information on these questions here are carefully removed and published only after getting permission from user.

I liked and had sex with my colleague, who doesn't want commitment or relationship. I feel used and helpless

Asked by Female, 22, Single
I liked one of my colleagues. We went out for shopping one day and then we had sex. After that, we went on having sex and I do have feelings for him but he didn't have. He doesn't want commitment nor relationship. I am unable to come up with the situation as he is my first crush and I have given so much into this. I can't take it anymore. Every time I feel like being a doormat for him. But I am not able to come up with this situation, please help me. Is there any chance so that we can be together and if not what should I do?
Answer
Default user
Mousumi Saha
Counseling Psychologist

I truly understand the pain you might be going through. This pain is unbearable, the feeling of being a doormat for someone whom you love and care the most. If someone is having sex with you and he is not interested or if he doesn’t want to have a relationship, it’s because in his mind it’s a casual relationship. The good thing is the insight which you have is a blessing and that could help us to work together to change the present situation and move ahead.

Speak with a Relationship Counselor today
  • Anonymous and Convenient. Free Trial Available.
  • Send Unlimited Messages to your dedicated Counselor.
  • Book a Phone Session