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Low self-esteem and self-confidence, self-critical

Asked by Female, 21, Single
I have a low self esteem and that is a source of stress for me. In spite of doing fairly well in all spheres of life I have a very low self confidence. I am over critical with myself...its like my body and my mind works hard for me but my inner self doesn't appreciate it or feels satisfied ever.
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Madhuri Mohan
Counselling Psychologist

Hi, I can understand how you are feeling right now. Low self-esteem stems from viewing yourself as inadequate, unacceptable and/or unworthy. These beliefs create negative, self-critical thoughts that may affect your behaviour and actions, often lowering your self-confidence even further.  There are ways you can overcome this, but before you can do that, you have to understand what kind of thoughts you are having that is making you feel low. so the first thing that you would need to do is keep a journal. In this journal write down all the negative thoughts you have about yourself and how you feel when you think about these thoughts. This will help you understand why you are having these thoughts. Once you do this, please write back to me via private message and then I will give you tips on how we can work toward changing those negative thoughts into positive ones and how to improve your confidence. Look forward to hearing from you. :) 

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