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My boyfriend married someone else against his wish due to parent's pressure. Can't live without him!

Asked by Female, 20, Single
Today my boyfriend has married another girl because of family pressure, he still loves me and he is not happy with this marriage. I still love him I am broken and don't know what to do. I really miss him so much that I have fallen sick too. He is very upset but due to his family, he has taken this step. He belongs to a rural place and his family believes in religion and caste, what should I do? I want him back and I can't live without him.
Answer
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Sneha
Psychotherapist

Dear writer, thank you for writing in. It takes courage to reach out and ask for help. I understand you are in a lot of pain over losing your boyfriend. Whether he loves you or not the fact is he made the choice to agree with his parents rather than stand by you. You want him back and it has made you sick to know that now he belongs to someone else. You still have your life and future to live and experience. Your life is not ruined but just your plans are. Unless he decides to be with you there is nothing you can do except wish him a happy married life and want the same for yourself and move on. I understand the thought of leading a life without your boyfriend being a part of it seems very difficult. It's difficult now because you are hurting. You have been through a terrible experience but it need not define you or your future. Now you have to focus on learning to be happy and work on yourself without him in the picture. It's a choice you have to make. You can either choose to hold on or let go and let yourself heal. Letting your health deteriorate doesn't solve anything. You have to accept that to heal it will take time but eventually it does gets better and you will find yourself feeling better too. Easier said than done, but you have a lot of strength in you to accomplish that. You have people in your life who love and care for you. Use their support for the time being. Have you told anyone about what you are going through?
Please message back to continue discussing. I am here for you. Regards

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