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My mom's extra-marital affair has created havoc in family. Dad is off balanced, silent, abusive, tends to be busy
Asked by Female, 0, Single
My mom had extramarital affair and my father came to know about it last year. Even though she has confessed everything, she cries on daily basis, there is no positive change in my father. He is quite off balance, puts himself into work, doesn't talk much, doesn't eat much, and gets abusive with her. He keeps revisiting what had happened and even if he tries to, he isn't able to move on. I have accepted my mother's mistake but I cannot bear what is happening at home. It is hampering their health, physically and mentally as both of them have thought and probably attempted suicide. My brother and I study in another city while they're based in a different city, we have tried our best to intervene, talk about it, talk about the future too but nothing has worked so far.
Answer
Sneha
Psychotherapist
Dear Writer, it must be difficult and painful to have to witness your parents' relationship fall apart. I understand you and your brother have tried everything to make them sort it out. Now the fact is that this situation is not in your control therefore the feeling of helplessness. Both your parents have to be inclined and willing to work on their marriage. I'm guessing there might have been some existing problems which may have led to your mother having an affair.
How would you like me to help you? We can either focus on what you are going through emotionally as a result of this situation or we could talk about your parents marriage but it won't yield much result unless the couple involved is asking for help.
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