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Need tips to improve relationship with partner
Asked by male, 22 yrs, in_relationship
I need tips to improve my relationship with my girlfriend.
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Komal
Counseling Psychologist

Every couple is unique in itself and depending on their individual personalities, them as a unit, and the dynamics of the relationship, you can try out multiple things to see what suits you both best.

Everyday rituals- invent some everyday rituals as a couple that you both enjoy doing for each other and for yourself and follow them religiously every single day. This will help keep the romance alive in the relationship for years to come.

Weekly/monthly rituals- Go for dinner dates/ movie dates, grab that suit and look sexy for her, get those flowers for her. Keep trying to make efforts to impress each other and do not stop just because you now have each other. Live each day like you are still trying to pursue each other.

Surprise each other occasionally- you need not wait for birthdays/ anniversaries or montheversaries/ valentine’s day for that. Whisper sweet nothings into each others ear once in a while, leave notes for each other, get creative!

Communicate- Keep the conversations alive by talking about things that matter to you both, share about your day with each other, talk about your feelings and thoughts, share common interests.

Mutual respect- Without trust, respect for each other's feelings, space, time and opinions, the foundation of the relationship will not be strong enough and with a shaky foundation, nothing built on it will survive in the long run.

Enjoy activities together- Pack those bags and make that trip! Travel together! Plan that getaway! She loves pottery? Make that pot with her! Love swimming? Go for a swim together! Get a couple’s spa voucher. Give each other something to look forward to! Revisit the good old times together and cherish them!

Do not go to bed angry- aim to always resolve disputes, do not push them away. It can be hard but you can eventually work to find a pattern or rhythm that works for the both of you. Do not keep score cards/ play blame games/ keep revisiting the past/ use taunts. Remember, you both are on the same team, not against each other. Learn to be able to laugh together at each other’s little understandable mistakes.

Be each other’s strength and not weakness- Help each other grow in all aspects of life, individually, professionally, socially, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually, sexually, physically in a healthy and supportive manner, not as to depend on each other in an unhealthy, enmeshed and possessive manner.

Keep the relationship alive- It should be filled with respect, sensitivity, and love for each other.

These are just some of the few things off the top of my head that you could try, there could be many more one could keep adding to the list. The key is to keep the efforts alive.