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Should I marry my partner or not?

Asked by Female, 23, In relationship
I am confused whether I should marry my boyfriend or not. We have broken up because I am unable to commit to him.
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Komal
Counseling Psychologist

Marriage is quite a huge decision to be made and it indeed is not easy. It is a decision of a lifetime after all.

You broke up with your boyfriend because you were not able to commit to him. To be able to get a clarity for yourself to your confusion, it would help for you to take time to process your reasons as to what made it difficult for you to be able to commit to him.
Ask yourself if the concern was only with this particular boyfriend or is it that you generally feel that you are unable to commit to any relationship.

If it is about this particular person, explore your reasons for the same. Once you have been able to find a few reasons, ask yourself if you are willing to get past those issues or do you see yourself being able to work with him on improving on them. If not, then probably it is best for you to not go ahead with this relationship any further.
If you find yourself not being able to commit to anyone in general, perhaps you are dealing with commitment issues that need to be explored through personal counselling or therapy sessions before considering marriage. Once you are able to work on your commitment issues, you would be able to get yourself comfortable with the idea of being committed to someone.

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