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Suspect relationship between bestie and ex-boyfriend

Asked by Female, 15, Single
i am pretty young but im dealing with depression. i recently had a forceful breakup with my boyfriend because according to him, his parents got to know about us so he had to do it. but there is something going on between my bestie and him. my bestie is a good friend of mine and his. but rumours are up between both of them. i can't take it !!
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Indu Padmakumar
Counselling Psychologist and Special Educator

Hi :)
Breakups can be really hard, no matter what age you are. I'm sure this is a difficult time for you.

During breakups however, we may not always be very objective when it come to the ex.

The first thing to remember is not to jump to conclusions about anything just yet.
There's a chance that rumours are just rumours and you might be wrong about your best friend and ex.

I would suggest that you talk to another person who is completely objective about the whole situation and see if they think they are cheating as well.

If yes, then the first step to take would be to confront it.
Ask your best friend straight up in a non threatening way, whether she has feelings for your ex and if they are dating each other.

If yes, then it would be best to move on from your ex and your friend until you're over the break up.

Distract yourself with other things.
Make new friends or hang out with other people.
Take up something you've always wanted to learn and engage yourself.
Take this time to explore what you love doing and what makes you excited in life.

I hope this helps. I wish you all the best.
Take care and be strong!

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