Trouble in marriage. Husband is irresponsible, does not show any love and care to our children!

Dear Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes courage to reach out and take this step. I understand you are depressed about the state of your marriage. Although you have shown so much strength in trying to keep this marriage together for so long, the fact is it takes two to make it work. Unless your husband is willing to meet you halfway, this kind of commitment turns into a burden. You need to ask yourself whether this is something you can continue to manage. You also have your needs and expectations and constantly putting them on the backburner will lead you to have a burnout and you will run out of all your strength.
Ask yourself what do you want for yourself? Do you want to leave this marriage?
Yes leaving this marriage will not be without complications and issues but that doesn't make it a wrong decision either. All important decisions are hard because they mean so much more. So you have to think about life outside of this marriage and see if you have the strength and courage to deal with it. It's hard but certainly not impossible because of all the adjustment. I understand you are worried about your kids but you are the one equipped to judge this situation. Your kids still don't have the maturity to think head like you, so asking them what they want will not help. All kids want their parents to be together, so that's what they will ask for because the alternative is scary for them to imagine. Leaving him is a decision you have to take based on your experience and your tolerance level. Your kids are growing up in this atmosphere of an unhappy marriage. Think of how it will mould and shape them. Happiness is a choice and you have to work for it because you have to believe you deserve it. That is an important lesson your kids can learn too.
Please let me know what you think. I am here for you every step of the way. Regards
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