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Trouble in second marriage, multiple abortions, no trust or communication

Asked by Female, 37, Married
My second marriage is in trouble with no communication and regular fights. I have sacrificed a lot and I have had multiple abortions and still there is a lot of pressure from my in laws in the marriage. My MIL does not treat me well. I do not know whether to remain in this marriage anymore or not.
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Komal
Counseling Psychologist

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help.

It seems that you are facing difficulty in your marriage. This is your second marriage and you are having to face issues with in laws and matters regarding your children. There is a lot of pressure of expectations from you and you seem to feel pressurised and trapped under these burdens. You are confused whether to continue in the relationship or to separate. I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to be in given that you have already gone through a divorce before and managed to give marriage another chance with someone else. You have made a lot of sacrifices for your family. In all of this, neither your husband nor your mother in law have been supportive towards you. That must have required a lot of courage on your part.

Firstly, I would appreciate the courage in you for being able to manage so far. I can imagine that this must not have been easy for you.
If you feel comfortable, could you tell me since when have you been married?
Since when have you been facing these issues? How was the marriage before that?
What is it that you usually end up fighting about?
When you say that you have a lot of pressure from your in laws and that your MIL does not treat you well, could you elaborate on that with instances?

How would you like me to help you with your situation? What is it that you are hoping to seek through this counselling process?

Please respond back to continue our discussion. Looking forward to hearing from you.
Warm regards.

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