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Unable to focus on exam preparation due to breakup

Asked by Female, 20, Single
My long-term boyfriend broke up with me. He has moved on with another girl but I am unable to focus on my exam preparation. i am scared of letting my parents down.
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Michelle
Counseling Psychologist

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help.

It seems that you are facing difficulty in moving on from a relationship to which you had invested so much of yourself and dreamt a future with. I understand that it must be a very difficult position for you to be in seeing him moved on so soon. To top it all, you are finding it difficult to concentrate on your studies and do not want to let you parents down.

Firstly, I would appreciate the courage in you for being able to manage so far. I can imagine that this has not been easy for you to handle all alone.

Could you tell me a little bit more about yourself? What does a typical day in your life look like? Any social circles that you enjoy being a part of? Any interest in any activities? Understandable, given how devastated this all must have been for you, it is important to keep in mind that you have invested a lot of yourself in this relationship for a long period of time with a lot of hopes attached. Moving on certainly is going to be difficult and it will demand its time to heal. We need to prepare ourselves to be ready for this. And I already see the strength in you to be able to do this.

Please respond back to continue our discussion. Looking forward to hearing from you.
Warm regards.

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