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Want to have a real relationship with ex-boyfriend, not just sex

Asked by Female, 19, Single
My exboyfriend and me had an intimate relationship but soon things changed. He just meet me whenever he wants to have sex. We are more like friends with benefits but I love him. He doesn't realize that and I can't find a way to make him understand. Please help
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Indu Padmakumar
Counselling Psychologist and Special Educator

Hi,
It seems like your ex boyfriend and you have moved on in different ways from your previous relationship.
It seems like he is interested purely in a physical relationship with you, but you're not on the same page as him.
You still have feelings for him, so as a result the friends with benefits relationship you have with him is hurting you emotionally in the long run.
Here, communication is key. Talk to each other and find out if you both want to be in a relationship again or if he is only interested in maintaining a physical relationship with you.
If you have feelings for him but he doesn't have any for you, it's probably best not to be intimate with him.
If you both have feelings for each other, you could give your relationship another try.
Hope this helps. Take care.

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