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Wife suspects me of having affair with brother's wife

Asked by Male, 29, Married
My wife suspects me of having an affair with my brother's wife without any basis. She wants me to move out of the house with her because of this. I have tried explaining to her that there is nothing like that but she is not understanding. There are fights in my house every day.
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Komal
Counseling Psychologist

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help.

It seems that you are facing difficulty in your marriage with your wife doubting you with no basis and asking you to move out with her which is not realistic and is unfair to you. Although you have tried all in your capacity to explain to her but she is not willing to get convinced and this can be emotionally frustrating for you to deal with on a daily basis. I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to be in trying to balance between your family and your wife.

Firstly, I would appreciate the courage in you for being able to manage so far. I can imagine that this certainly must have not been easy on you.
Could you tell me a little bit about yourself and your wife as individuals? What do you both do?
Was your marriage an arranged marriage or a love marriage?
How was the courtship period for you both before you got married to each other?
What in your opinion is making your wife doubt that there is something between you and your brother's wife?
You mentioned that you have tried convincing her many a times. Could you tell me how have you done that? Could you share some instances of such fights? It would help if you could describe to me the conversations that have taken place between you both regarding this issue.
Answering these questions will help me understand your situation better and enable me to guide you accordingly.

Secondly, how would you like me to help you with your situation? What is it that you are hoping to seek through this counselling process?

Please respond back to continue our discussion. Looking forward to hearing from you.
Warm regards.

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