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Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 29 years. in_relationship

Partner wants me to mold myself according to his personality

My partner wants me to react to situations as per his expectations. He is irritable and angry all the time. I cannot change my personality to suit him. How do we deal with this?

It can get quite frustrating to have your partner want to change you as per their needs and expectations. That does not seem to be accepting of him towards you. When in a relationship, we want for our partners to accept us for who we are and bring change in us only towards inspiring us to becomes the best version of our own self. No two people have the same temperament and neither should anyone be expected to have. Unless your reactions are socially unacceptable, his need seems to be unreasonable and inconsiderate towards you. And this certainly does not justify his anger and irritation...
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 24 years. married

Husband disrespects women, leches at women

My husband thinks he has done a favor by marrying me. He has no respect for women and ogles women when out in the streets.

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. It seems that you are facing difficulty in your marriage with regard to your husband's behaviour towards other women. I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to be in considering that you find his behaviour disrespectful and are not comfortable with it. Firstly, I would appreciate the courage in you for being able to manage so far. I can imagine that this must not have been easy for you. If you feel comfortable, could you tell me more about you and your husband as individuals? What...
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 28 years. married

Husband changed after marriage, flirts, lies, beats or avoid me; I am pregnant

I am pregnant. Its been 2 years we are married. My husband was a really a nice guy. Loving, caring, everything that a girl expects her husband to be. But now I really do not want live with my husband anymore. He has changed a lot, he drinks, he lies, he flirts even he beats me sometimes. He does...

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. I appreciate the time you have taken to write down your concerns. That helps me understand your environment to be able to aid you better. From what i gather, you are currently in a difficult position with respect to your marriage. It must be so much more tough given that you are pregnant. At a time where you would have dreamed to spend this time at the peak of your love with your husband, you find yourself alone fighting for it. Although your husband was a divorcee and your parents had advised you against...
Behavioural Issues Asked by male, years.

Unable to speak to women. Feels insecure due to hair loss and depression

I am a 30 years old male, Unmarried. I have a good Job and Salary. I am currently searching for a life partner but I have a hair problem and also have depression. I dislike my family for pointing this out to me, others and not doing anything about it. I am not able to interact with women and hate...

Dear Writer, thank you for writing to us. It takes courage in reaching out for help. I understand you feel depressed and angry with your situation. Your skin problem at a young age made you conscious and depressed. Your parents lack of worry and initiative to handle this problem for you made you upset with them. Whom did they tell about your issue? You haven't interacted with the opposite sex. What fears do you have about talking to women? Do you feel conscious or fear rejection? You think all women only look for external beauty and this thought makes you hate them. You also said...
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 23 years. single

I am possessive about my boyfriend. Feel insecure for his contact with friends

I get into arguments with my boyfriend often because I am very possessive and I get angry easily. He has contact with his friends and maybe for that, the reason I am scared to lose him. I love him and I want our relationship to work out. what should I do?

Dear Writer, thank you for writing to us. I understand you get angry easily and argue a lot with your boyfriend because of your possessiveness. You are scared to lose him because he's in touch with his friends. Do you have friends you are in touch with? Has your boyfriend done anything to break your trust before? If not then this is an insecurity which requires you to work on. The more you try to possess him and hold him close out of fear, the more you will end up pushing him away. Are you losing interest in him or is it just him who's losing interest? Please message back to...
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 26 years. single

My fiance anger issues seem to be escalating and are threatening our relationship!

My fiance has major anger issues. Sometimes he says very mean things to me when we are fighting. He always apologises but ends up saying the same things again. Recently again he got angry and abused me very badly and even though I didn't react as we were in a public place. He suddenly hit me on...

Dear writer, thank you for reaching out. It takes courage to take this step. I understand you are scared about your fiance's temper outbursts and you are absolutely right to be this worried about it. If this becomes a pattern then it can create a cycle of abuse which is a very toxic situation to be in for both of you. As much as you say he treats you really well this is also another side to it where he does the exact opposite. So to help yourself you might have to insist that he helps himself first. Rather than minimize the seriousness of the issue, it would help if you made it clear that...
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 18 years. single

Mood swing, behavioral problems, minor depression, insecurities causing stress and not letting me concentrate!

Mood swing and behavioral problems minor depression and insecurities. Thinking too deeply on every situation causing stress and not letting me concentrate. Worried about how people think about me whenever I do something.

Dear Anaya, thank you for writing to us. It takes courage to acknowledge your problems and reach out to us. I understand you feel insecure and anxious but the information provided here is very limited. To understand your situation better and help you accordingly could you tell me more about yourself and how long have you been feeling this way? It would also help if you wrote about some situations highlighting the said problems. How did you come around to self-diagnosing mood swings and minor depression? Please do message back to continue our discussion. We are here to help. Regards
Behavioural Issues Asked by male, 21 years. single

I love a girl who also liked me but now ignoring me.

I met this girl online. She was really interested in me. At first she was shy but as time passed she got comfortable with me. She shared everything with me. She showed a lot of affection and asked me to meet her. We met. I made her laugh a lot and kept everything funny. She also was comfortable...

I understand you what you going through! It's always better to clarify with your partner as in why is she doing that ?what's the reason, at the same time give her a space, do not force her to express. Some people will be good in expressing and some will not! And take some more time in understanding each....This is important in relationship. Don't come to conclusion very soon and misunderstand each other or have conflicts. Handle it softly
Behavioural Issues Asked by male, 35 years. single

Have anxious attachment style, affecting relationships badly

I am a person with Anxious Attachment style. This pattern gets repeated across several relationships, resulting in breakups. I get attached too easily, use activating strategies and then protest behavior. From what I have read, there are ways to effectively communicate and make relationship...

Hello, Thanks for writing to the askmile team with your concerns. We note your struggle in maintaining relationships. At 35 you still remain single though you had series of relationships. I am gald you are aware of your specific difficulty - the attachment patterns. And the defect in your attachment patterns. It will be useful to hear form you further details.
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 24 years. married

My short-temper and misbehavior due to childlessness, miscarriages making him terrible!

I get angry at everything my husband says. I get hurt very easily. I know I am getting angry and shout without any proper reason but I can't help it. I feel like I am making him feel terrible because of my behavior. I don't understand why I get angry. I have many things running in my mind. Just...

Dear Writer, I appreciate your having written in. At the outset it is commendable that you are aware and are able to address that you have an anger issue and that it is affecting your marriage. Now let's get to the heart of the matter. Your anger is a symptom and a cover for a deep underlying unhappiness and it might have to do with your miscarriages/pregnancy. How long have you both been trying to start a family? The ordeal of trying to get pregnant is hard enough emotionally, add to that your miscarriages must have been very painful and traumatic to deal with. It takes a toll on one,...
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 27 years. single

Fighting all the time in the relationship. Is it due to lifestyle stress?

I am not sure if he is the right one. I am not sure if I fell in love with him because of the pressure of finding someone, or because it was meant to be. We are in a long distance relationship, and lately, we have been fighting a lot. I don't know if it's the stress related to our lifestyle, or...

Dear writer, I appreciate your having written in. I can see that you are in some what of a quandary. Your relationship seems to be in a state limbo. It doesn't seem to be progressing in any direction and that probably has to do with your own uncertainty. It's natural to have fights with your partner but the demands of a long distance relationship can provoke you over the smallest of things. You have mentioned some reasons for this. It could be either of them or all of them contributing to you feeling like this. What I can note is that you seem drained. At this point you cant seem to fall...
Behavioural Issues Asked by male, 34 years. married

My wife has OCD, mood swings, irritability, wants to be separate. How to save my marriage?

I am recently married about 4 months old, but still, my wife is yet to come and live with me. She hardly stayed for a week last month and back with her parents. The problem is she is a chronic OCD patient with lot of mood swings, irritability, and a dominating nature. With her obsession with...

Dear writer, I understand that your situation has left you feeling very frustrated, hurt and above all confused. Before I address the matter any further what is important to clarify is whether your wife has a confirmed diagnosis of OCD and if she's on any psychological/ psychiatric treatment? Is there a family history of any mental disorder? Why this is important to clarify is so that we know what you are up against. It's natural for you to have your own parameters and expectations from your partner. While it is not always possible to have all our expectations met, one can arrive at an...
Behavioural Issues Asked by male, 19 years. single

Facing a lot of anger issues in my relationship

I have been facing a lot of anger issues. I get angry really fast on silly things. I don't know if it's my jealousy or something else. I love my girlfriend and I actually hate fighting with her, but every time she does something I tend to lose my temper. It takes me a few minutes to calm down. I...

Dear User, You seem to be going through a difficult time. It looks like you love your girl friend dearly but some of her behaviours really bother you and you lose your temper but quickly regain composure. Could you please elaborate on which issues do you feel angry with her?
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 23 years. married

Unhappy marriage due to lots of fights, complains, carelessness. He focuses on friends rather than me!

I want to end my marriage, I think my marriage is not working and it's been 2 years we just fight every month at least twice. So I can't-do this throughout my life. Full of complaints and careless about me. He focuses on friends rather than me and my family. Always doubts on me. He argues about...

Dear writer, I understand you feel your relationship is at an impasse and that can be very frustrating. However I require some more information to get a grip of your situation. You have mentioned that you both fight atleast twice every month , so let me assure you that number isn't so worrisome. What I am more concerned about is how you both are with each other in your day to day life. When you say he is careless about you, do you mean that he is taking you for granted or that he isn't receptive to you? Please elaborate. Also when you mention that he focuses more on friends over family, do...
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 18 years. single

Long distance relationship. Things are going bad, we hardly talk to each other!

We are in a long distance relationship and these day's we hardly talk to each other and even if I call also he talks to me very rudely. We met recently and things were normal but after going back to his place, we didn't even talk properly. Is it a sign that he is bored of me?

Dear writer, thank you for writing in. Long distance relationships can be hard because you have to fall back on communicating via phones / online completely to make it work. However this works only if both parties involved understand the reality of the situation and put in the efforts required. Situations such as this require one to asses whether they can handle the demands of a long distance relationship. Insecurities will surface when there is change noted in conversations. Distances can build up and create a disconnect. Which is why some couples try to meet up more often to deal with...
Behavioural Issues Asked by male, 22 years. single

"Being an Introvert all my life, socializing gets tougher"

Hello, Being an Introvert all my life, I feel I overthink too much and I cannot even socialize with anyone. I have become severely nihilistic and I am not able to learn/function on a day to day basis. How do I get out of this trap? kindly help

Hello, Thank you for trying to find a way out of your situation. It must be quite an ordeal to want to talk to people or participate or go out with someone, but not actually doing it. Then thinking, how it could have been done, or how you wished it had happened. From your situation I understand that though you are an introvert, you do have a need to socialise and as u have not been interacting earlier, you are now finding it difficult to do so. So first let us take away the word introvert from your brains dictionary. Because introverts do not have a need to socialise. They generally...
Behavioural Issues Asked by male, 32 years. married

How to build trust in people around me about my capability?

What do I do when people around me don't trust me - even when I am very capable?

Hi, Glad that you have contacted us to share your worries. I am sure it must be really difficult for you to constantly prove yourself, when you know you are capable of certain things and you still have to prove yourself. I could help you better if you elaborate and give instances where you have faced such situations. We can reflect together and see what you could do to work on it and make situations better for yourself. Do get back to me with instances and we can take it from there. Regards,
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 24 years. single

Afraid of change and meeting new people

I am afraid of change and of meeting new people. I do not like crowds. I am not outspoken so I find it difficult to interact with people.

Greetings,I read and I went  through what you had written and it is not very healthy for your self wise and otherwise as well.Having said that, with each word that you were typing, I am sure you might have lived through the entire experience its tough. Whilst you were typing I realized that there is a realization in you that you are aware of the state of mind that you are in and you want to get out of it.Since, you want to get out of this situation, the solutions are pretty crystal clear that you have to sort this relationship with yourself and others with you, and focus on finding spaces...
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 20 years. single

Crying very easily after problems with best friend

I have an unhappy relationship with my best friend. I am constantly crying for petty issues. My mood is dictated by his mood. I want to be happy.

Hi, I can totally understand that it is really difficult for you at present being like this. Let me first thank you as you choose us to share your thoughts and feeling with. It must be really difficult for you when you say you cry for the silliest things and makes it really difficult for you to stop crying. It would be nice if you could help me understand the situations when you start crying. Could you also tell me the triggers that affect you the most and you feel sad. You also mention that you have some issues with your best friend, could you also elaborate on it, so that I could...
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 30 years. married

Have bad habits, not social or communicative, am lazy

I have a habit I am extreme lazy and lot of bad habits I want to change my aim but everyday I am fail in it what to do about it I am not social and communicative somewhere and I know I am leaving my self behind.

Hi, can i know, whoch one you would like to work on?whether on laziness? Bad habits?being social? Which is bothering you so much?
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 29 years. single

Feel tensed and short-tempered when friend contacts the person I don't like

I feel so tensed and becoming short-temper on my friend always since she have the contact with the person whom I don't like.

Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 17 years. single

Crying easily, weakening communication skills, anxiety

I am studying in 12th I used to be so happy before without bothering about the situation. But from few months I am very depressed and used to burst in tears easily. I used to be so talkative but now I am getting alone day by day if anyone talks to me I can able to talk to him/her. My...

Hey Parul, it is a thing that none of humans know; when these feelings can crawl into our respective lives, but the important thing is to attest to that fact and seek help. Which you did. Next important thing is to make a list of things that you want back and start working for it, it is very important that, you take all the strength and start doing. You will feel like laying back and you will start panicking; but don't give it in for that. Regarding the Neuroticism, you ought to surround yourself with positivity and focus on a healthy physical body Start by Exercising because...
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 23 years. single

Feeling lost, many changes in life

I feel lost these days. Many things have changed in my life now but still I don't know what I am looking for?

Hi, who am i? is question for which you are looking for an answer and i am here to be part of your that journey, i do understand that feeling lost might not be one of the great feelings in life, however thats best point to start from in finding yourself back Please help me understand more about what changes has taken place and then we will discuss this in detail so that you can find yourself :) Hope this helps Do write back to us so we can help you better
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 16 years. single

Dual characters of friends, ignores in group. Now excluded me from group.

I hate the fact that my friends are so sweet to me when it's only me and that person but when all 6 of us are together they exclude me! They say I apologize too much but that's because when whatever I say is taken in the wrong way and they get mad at me! I am incredibly close to one of these 6...

Hi, I read through your question and I understand that you get mixed feelings from the friend and you don't know how to handle it. At the outset, I will tell you that one cannot change how the other person is behaving but can change the perception that we have of it. Having said that, there are couple of things you can do: 1. Talk to her directly and tell her how you feel. Don't speak about that she is behaving in a wrong manner but share how you feel. So, for example, you can say, I have felt that your behaviour with me changes when we are alone and when we are in group and this really...
Behavioural Issues Asked by male, 17 years. single

Want to be very wealthy but unable to focus

I'm very confused what should i become in life. I want to be very weathly but I can't focus on what should I do? I can't understand what exaclty I am intrested in?

Hey, It is very clearly that you want to be very wealthy, however what I understand from it is that, becoming wealthy is not a very goal. There is a rule whilst you set a Goal, and when you have a goal set in front of you, you will aspire to seek it and make that into a reality. Every goal that we set should always be SMART, yes it is abbreviated for: S is for Specific by which I mean that if goals aren't reachable and not specific you, yourself are distorted and you have to set realistic goals. M is for Measurable by which I mean is that all goals should have a way to evaluate whether...
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 17 years. single

Feel scared to act my age, want to still be a child

I am a 17 year old. Now I am in a college in my first year BA degree, well my mom has always been a teacher in my school but she never interfered in my school affairs but somehow others always kept calling me teacher's daughter, teacher's pet as such and I lived by that name as i was a perfect...

Hi, I really appreciate you writing in to us to figure out how you can change your situation. I understand that you are facing a new feeling now when you want to go out and have fun as you have never done this before. Believe me its okay to feel this way. You are doing something you have not done before, you are moving out of your comfort zone so it is going to feel odd, to feel tensed. Ask yourself certain questions before you are going out, is it dangerous for me in any way? am I comfortable with the people I am going out with? Do I know where I am going? Is the place where I am...
Behavioural Issues Asked by male, 30 years. married

How to get over frustration?

I want to know how to restore from frustration?

Hi, Its amazing to notice that you have realised that frustration is something which you need to handle in your life as it must be impacting you a lot. To deal with frustration we need to work on triggers, i.e all the situations or incidents that leaves you feeling frustrated, writing down all these triggers on daily basis will give you clear idea on what makes you feel that way? for example do you get frustrated because you could not meet your own expectations from yourself or other? once you know what are triggers, it would be best to avoid all these triggers tactfully and creatively...
Behavioural Issues Asked by male, 20 years. single

Lack of self-confidence, hesitant to converse in English, unable to chat with girls

Hi. I'm not sure if a psychologist is the right person to talk about this, but here's the thing: I'm probably THE MOST UNDER-CONFIDENT person in my college. I never am able to talk to a person who I wish to talk to (specially girls). This only lowers my confidence. And when i'm with a girl,...

Hey, you are very brave enough to come a portal like this and share your uneasiness. We all are here to to guide you in a way that you gain back your confidence and also at the same time help you with what ever is the need that you want. Regarding confidence, here are the few ways that you can build it and use it as a life skills so that you sway your way into any conversation and maintain a balance when you are in it: 1) You have to look good and believe that you look good; what it does to a person is that, the moment we look good and believe that we look good we feel good and we handle...
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 27 years. married

Feeling worthless, always irritated, shouting at toddler

I think I am suffering from depression because I feel worthless and always irritated.This behaviour of mine is getting worse as I have started shouting at my 2year old daughter poor girl.i don't want her to get effected please help me get out of depreesion

Depression is a serious condition that can impact every area of your lifeyour social life, relationships, career, and sense of self-worth and purpose. Many factors contribute to the unique picture of depression in womenfrom reproductive hormones to social pressures to the female response to stress.When you are depressed, most often you think that you are worthless. Also depression can lead to frustration and anger . You would want to release this anger on someone who cannot retaliate back , so you daughter becomes an easy target . I am happy atleast you realised that you are taking out your...
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 20 years. single

Feel lonely, need motivation to maintain good grades

I was a very bright student till my 12th, and. Oh when I am in my second year my grades are going low, I feel discouraged, I need motivation, I feel lonely at times, I feel as if m not good enough.. I can't make it with my studies

Greetings for the day! Motivation is a tricky thing to corral. It is tricky, but not at all impossible. Motivation lies in your head and this is the science behind it: Dopamines chemical signal gets passed from one neuron to the next, interacting with various receptors inside the synapse between the two neurons. Another argument is that Dopamine was all about pleasure, but pleasure is just the tip of the iceberg, Dopamines effect on the body is felt in many areas on our respective bodies, including motivation, memory, behaviour, cognition, attention, mood, learning and also pleasurable...
Behavioural Issues Asked by male, 24 years. single

Easily distracted while watching movies

My mindset is very addictive...if i watches movie I will imagine myself as a hero..always thinking of gods and girls

Experts have dubbed this subconscious phenomenon experience-takingKindly read this article:http://www.medicaldaily.com/psychologists-discover-how-people-subconsciously-become-their-favorite-fictional-characters-240435Thanks.
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 14 years. single

How to bond with parents who have high expectations from me?

I'm having some problems with my parents, I feel I am drifting apart. Nothing I do ever makes them happy anymore. I'm too scared to encounter them with my issues. They have very high expectations from me and I always fail to fulfill them. Please help me rebond with them

Hi,I can understand amount of pressure you have due to dilemma between being who you are and trying to be who your parents expect you to be,  i can also understand there are times when parents tend to become critical, however if you have siblings and you can consider  taking their support. parents usually want their children to perform well in studies/work and feel proud of it, and sometimes expectations seems to be unrealistic and brings lot of stress in child's life.First thing you need to do is to share each others concerns and talk your heart out, high chances that they are not aware of...
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 18 years. single

Should I complete my course even though it doesn't interest me?

Im a girl of 18. I hate my college. I dont want to go back to college ever since i suffered abuse from a family member who is in the same field as mine. I have been wanting to run away but i couldnt do it to my father who has been supporting me through everything. I want to live an independent...

Hi, From what you have told me, you seem to want to quit your course because your family member is in the same field. It is completely understandable to feel like running away from the whole situation. But I would like to ask you if you feel like doing that would help you deal with your feelings with regards to the abuse. I would suggest to seek proper psychological help to help you to deal with the same. Meanwhile, it's also important to figure out where your interest and skill lies and choose a career option to help you fulfill the same.
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 21 years. single

Have conservative parents, online psychology tests show presence of mental disorder

It sounds weird but the truth is i hate my parents. The reason being they don't understand me. Being born in an orthodox family I stand out as i want to live my life my way. I don't think its wrong. My relationship with my parents is just for financial support. I just feel it right. The worst...

Hi, As far as tests are concern, most of the tests available online are not to be trusted, and also having low esteem or passive aggressive traits or anything else does not make any one mad. Many individuals have differences like you with their parents and its completely normal to have so, after all there is huge age gap, but all these things be it about tests or parents can be worked upon, please request for personal chat, telephone or video session, we can help you out with these in better ways. also if you considering face to face session, let us know your location in personal chat...
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 16 years. single

People ignore me and pass sarcastic comments. Why?

Hie I'm 16 years college student My problem is,I don't know why everyone ignores me and pass sarcastic comments like See your bestie came when I approach to someone At starting every one talks with me Behave friendly (I get friendly with new people) But loose old one

Hi, I can understand it can be difficult when faced with this kind of rejection in college Few things you can do are Observe of what is it that drives them away and Try to express what you feel, people mostly behave in this way because they don't know how you feel about these things. These are most likely to be people who have hardly known you and appreciated amazing person that you are Develop good sense of humour, it works best with such people, when you laugh at yourself with them, they will most likely not mess with you next time rather will enjoy your company. if you feel like...
Behavioural Issues Asked by male, 33 years. married

How to overcome procrastination?

I feel I have not been able to realize my full potential, simply because I was never able to discipline myself to do anything regularly for any meaningful period of time. Be it learning to play an instrument, or doing some physical exercise daily, or reading regularly to keep up with my...

Dear, Friend i understand your concern, it can be frustrating at times not being able to achieve things as per standards you have set for yourself, however there can be many reasons for the same, like you pointed out it could be procrastination, or it could also be that simply you were not interested in the activities you have attempted so far or lost interest after a while, simple way to figure this out would be to ask yourself question that do you procrastinate for activities you interested in as well? and how much does it impact in achieving what you dream for? this will help you...
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 23 years. single

Feeling negative due to failure in test. How to become positive?

Hi... I am a passionate girl, highly devoted to studies...Have always been at top positions by God's grace. Since last two years I am putting all my efforts to qualify a test.. The Eligibility Test... And unfortunately I couldn't succeed. At times I feel too low due to that though I know that's...

Hi there, it is great that you are passionate about your goals and are working hard toward achieving them. This is commendable as not everybody shows the determination that you have. However, it is a reality of life that we all have to experience failure at some point and we also understand at some level, that this helps us grow. But it is human nature to hate failure and this plays on our mind even if we try to rationalize in our minds. We give it power over our emotions and we let it come in the way of our moving forward. The good news is that there are ways to cope with this and let go...
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 23 years. single

How to stop being a control freak?

I feel I am a control freak but not for everything. I want certain things to be executed in the way I want I can't let anybody else do my work. If I get some medical issue I freak out till I am cured. I just can't bear being sick. Life doesn't freak me out though. So many unexpected things happen...

Hi, While it is nice to want to have things done a certain way and strive for perfection in life, too much can be unhealthy. The reason why you feel the need to control things stems from some anxiety or fear you have. You need to figure out what fear this is. Since you say that you can't bear being sick, could be a sign that you feel that if you fall sick, you may lose out on certain opportunities and/ or you will become incompetent to do work. Also, you say that you do not let anybody else do your work for you further reiterates that maybe your fear and anxiety may be related to you...
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 21 years. single

Lack of self-confidence, worried about future, feel worthless without a relationship

I am 21 student of b.a I lack self confidence,theres a fear in me about future happening also I want to be in relationship with someone but both my career and relationship equally matters as I am single sometimes there nothing like excitement or surprises in my or the one who can make me feel...

Hi, I understand that at your age it is important to think about the future with regard to career and relationships.  Also, this is the time where all your peers have exciting things to share about their lives and you may feel that you do not have enough going on and that is making you feel worthless and lacking in self-confidence. However, there are two different issues to be addressed that is causing you to lose confidence. The first issue is that of your career. While choosing your career, you must first understand your personality, what kind of person are you? and what person you would...
Behavioural Issues Asked by male, 37 years. married

Tips to live in the moment?

I think a lot about the future, could you please tell me the strategies to live in the moment?

Hi, first let me tell you that I think that it is great that you have a futuristic outlook and like to think about and have a plan for the future. Not many people can do that and may live too much in the moment. However, I understand that you have the reverse problem. The idea is to strike a balance between having a plan for the future and living in the moment. Thinking too much about the future may result in missing out on opportunities in the present. There are a few things you can do to help you live more in the moment.Living in the moment does not mean doing what you want when you want....
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 22 years. single

Why do rich people get emotionally frustrated?

Why people become emotionally frustrated although having a lot of money?

Hello I Hope you are having great day! if i have to understand from your question here, i should take it as you have assumed that more money should be equal to no emotional frustration, if we go little further, it also means you are assuming that money should be enough to full-fill all the needs of human being, be it material, physical, emotional or anything else and if its suppose to be the case sure there should be no emotional frustration incase of more money. Do you think its true? if yes no need to think and worry about this, but since you are thinking about it, it suggests you have...
Behavioural Issues Asked by female, 29 years. married

How to make people like me?

How can I make my colleagues, and especially juniors at work like me. I explain things with patience, but snap at them when they dont perform or meet my expectation.

Hi first let me congratulate you on the effort you are taking to become a good leader. It is great that you want your colleagues to like you and makes for a productive, pleasant working environment. It is also good that you take time out to explain things to your colleagues and juniors. However, when you are explaining things to them, do you let them know what your expectations are and how you want the work to be done? Sometimes we may have expectations and assume that by just explaining a task those expectations are automatically communicated. This may not necessarily be the case as...
Behavioural Issues Asked by male, 30 years. married

Want to simplify life and improve focus

I m suffering from the too many options syndrome. Frittering away life on details. Would like to bring focus back to basics and simplify. Simplification routine would be required.

What is the routine you follow when your house is cluttered..?? A Basic & simple one right. You just go through each possession & get rid of those which aren't of much value but being preserved habitually or out of insecurity. Too many options you are talking about have been the clutter blocking you from in depth focus on few things that matter. Here is a straight forward routine towards clarity. 1. Introspect, Reflect on & know your expectations from life (What makes you really happy..??) and do the same with your partner if you are married. 2. Once you have a clarity on...