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Breakups Asked by male, 25 years. single

She left me and is getting married to someone else

She left me and getting married in November, I am in depression, unable to sleep well , not interested in anything and feeling worst I ever felt and it's killing me every second.

Having to deal with rejection in love is one of the toughest emotional battles we face in our life. You are not only left to deal with a broken heart but also come to terms with abandonment, a sense of terror about the future, disappointment... There is a process of going from 'we' back to 'me', and it is not easy, but not impossible as well. As you're dealing with this sadness, you're also having to deal with the shock and also perhaps an anger of her having moved on to be marrying someone else. You're feeling your all time low, thoughts of her have left you sleepless and the torment...
Breakups Asked by female, 23 years. single

Need help to get over breakup with long-time boyfriend

How do I overcome a breakup with my long-time boyfriend?

Moving on from a relationship can indeed be a very difficult phase to go through emotionally. You are in pain over loosing someone. You take time to invest yourself in the relationship, build memories, make promises, see dreams together and then one day everything seems gone and your world is shattered. After a breakup there is a sense of abandonment, there is a sense of terror about the future, there is disappointment... there is a process of going from “we” back to “me”. At such times we only feel the desperate urge to not experience the pain we are feeling but that is disrespecting the...
Breakups Asked by male, 29 years. single

Feeling lonely and sad after breakup with girlfriend

I feel lonely and sad after my breakup with my girlfriend. She has made our mutual friends block me on social media.

Moving on from a relationship can indeed be a very difficult phase to go through emotionally. You are in pain over loosing someone. You take time to invest yourself in the relationship, build memories, make promises, see dreams together and then one day everything seems gone and your world is shattered. After a breakup there is a sense of abandonment, there is a sense of terror about the future, there is disappointment... there is a process of going from “we” back to “me”. At such times we only feel the desperate urge to not experience the pain we are feeling but that is disrespecting the...
Breakups Asked by male, 19 years. single

Girlfriend broke up with me due to my possessiveness

My girlfriend broke up with me because she felt I was too possessive. I do not have any friends and cannot talk about this with anyone. I am still in love with her.

So what I see is that you are dealing with multiple issues here. One being rejected and dealing with the breakup, the other being possessive (that is if you agree with your ex), and being socially lonely. Falling in love does not guarantee that the other person will love you back as well. It’s a difficult truth to accept and painful. Loving someone truly is not about possessing or owning them. After a breakup there is a sense of abandonment, there is a sense of terror about the future, there is disappointment... there is a process of going from “we” back to “me”. Moving on from a...
Breakups Asked by male, 28 years. single

How do I get over my recent break-up?

My girlfriend broke up with me recently because she fell out of love with me. I am still in love with her. How do I get over this break-up?

Falling in love does not guarantee that the other person will love you back as well. It’s a difficult truth to accept and painful. Loving someone truly is not about possessing or owning them. If you love someone truly, you will continue to love them even if they are not yours or you might eventually move on if that it unbearable for you to live with. It might take a while to get past the sorrow, to accept the fate and to be able to heal again. You can only bring yourself to get used to the memories haunting you and/or becoming indifferent to them over time. The best way is to come to...
Breakups Asked by female, 20 years. single

How to get over breakup with partner

I was in a relationship with a guy i love. He is my everything, my world. I would stay awake nights for him just to talk to him. We both knew we did not have a future together as families would not accept but we could not keep ourselves from each other. He now started avoiding me and when i...

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. From what you have written I gather that at present you are in a very emotionally vulnerable position. You are heart has been broken repeatedly and the feeling of pain and hurt is eating you up from inside. It is unbearable and has left you feeling depressed so much so that at you feel that you want to run away from this pain and death seems to be the only answer you can think of right now. I can only imagine the misery you are bearing right now. Although you both shared the understanding that you did not...
Breakups Asked by female, 21 years. single

Should I break up with my partner because he isn't successful?

My boyfriend is not able to have a successful career because of being in a relationship. Should I break up with him till he settles? I am afraid he will not come back to me later in life.

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. It seems that you are facing difficulty in your relationship with your boyfriend. You wish to break up with him as a way for him to work on building his career and for him to take this up seriously. But at the same time you do not wish to loose him forever. You want him to come back to you after building his career and you are unsure of how to proceed. I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to be in. Firstly, I would appreciate the courage in you for being able to manage so far. It...
Breakups Asked by male, 46 years. single

Want to get back with ex-girlfriend but she doesn't want it

I had a mutual break up with my girlfriend but now I want to give us another chance but she is not willing as she says it was devastating for her and asked for time and space even though she agrees that she still loves me. I am unable to forget her.

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. It seems that you are facing difficulty in your current status with your ex girlfriend. Although it was a mutual break up, in hindsight you have come to believe that you could have done better. But your ex girlfriend is not yet ready to give this relationship another try and is asking for some space to come to terms with the devastating end of the relationship. It seems that to her you are trying too hard to pursue her and she is asking for you to give her some space and time. Although she says that she...
Breakups Asked by female, 22 years. single

Boyfriend wants to break up but I don't want to

I have been in a relationship since few months. He now wants to break up with me and has stopped talking to me but I don't want to break up. I have lost interest in work and I think about him all the time.

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. It seems that you are facing difficulty in getting over the guy you love. You have been talking with him since few months and now he does not seem interested in continuing this. This seems to have hit you hard and at this point you are finding it difficult to find interest in any work. I can understand that right now you are finding it difficult to push away his memories and his thoughts have occupied your mind. I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to be in. Firstly, I would...
Breakups Asked by male, 20 years. single

Ex-girlfriend hurts me by contacting me occasionally

My ex-girlfriend broke up with me because she was sure her parents would not approve of our relationship. But she calls me occasionally and disturbs me. I am not able to focus on studies.

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. It seems that you are facing difficulty in moving on from a break up. More so because the break up was not because you both stopped loving each other but because of her parents. To top it, it gets even more difficult for you when she contacts you, reminding you of all the pain that you are trying hard to move on from. I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to be in. Firstly, I would appreciate the courage in you for being able to manage so far. Could you tell me a little bit about...
Breakups Asked by female, 20 years. single

Unable to focus on exam preparation due to breakup

My long-term boyfriend broke up with me. He has moved on with another girl but I am unable to focus on my exam preparation. i am scared of letting my parents down.

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. It seems that you are facing difficulty in moving on from a relationship to which you had invested so much of yourself and dreamt a future with. I understand that it must be a very difficult position for you to be in seeing him moved on so soon. To top it all, you are finding it difficult to concentrate on your studies and do not want to let you parents down. Firstly, I would appreciate the courage in you for being able to manage so far. I can imagine that this has not been easy for you to handle all...
Breakups Asked by male, 12 years. single

Unable to get over breakup with my girlfriend

I feel that my ex-girlfriend was the only one for me.

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. It seems that you are facing difficulty in dealing with your recent break up. I understand that it must be a difficult time for you. You have entered your age as 12 here Tom, is that correct? Also, if you feel comfortable, could you answer a few questions for me? It would help me understand your situation and that will help me assist you with your concerns in a better manner. Could you tell me a little bit about you and your ex-girlfriend? What do you do? Since when were you in a relationship and what...
Breakups Asked by female, 0 years. single

How can I trust people after a bad breakup?

I am unable to trust anyone after a bad breakup.

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. It seems that you are facing difficulty in having to trust again due to a bad break up in your past and are finding it difficult to lead a single life without a partner. I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to be in since this has also affected your sleep, appetite, social life as well as your general mood throughout the day. Firstly, I would appreciate the courage in you for being able to manage so far. Secondly, how would you like me to help you with your situation? What is it...
Breakups Asked by female, 26 years. single

Need help overcoming breakup with married man

Hello, I have been overlooked by the person with whom I had a relationship with, for the sake of his wife. I am unable to come out of this. I have made a mistake of getting along with a married man and trusting that he loves me the way I loved him.

Of course you still love him and want to reach out to him but you can't. That makes you feel helpless. Understandably you feel weak and hurt because it is a lot to take in. It can be very overwhelming because the relationship meant something to you. As you said, maybe you made the mistake of getting involved with a married man but it takes two willing people to get involved in the first place. You felt loved, cared for and special in the relationship. The efforts he put in and the things he said made you trust and commit to the relationship. You felt secure enough to expect the same from...
Breakups Asked by , years.

Unable to move on from a breakup

I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years and now he has gotten married to someone else. I am not able to move on. Please help.

Hi Writer, thank you for reaching out to us. It can't be easy to get over someone you've been with for 3 years. Could you give me a little more background as to what happened in your relationship?
Breakups Asked by female, 20 years. single

My boyfriend married someone else against his wish due to parent's pressure. Can't live without him!

Today my boyfriend has married another girl because of family pressure, he still loves me and he is not happy with this marriage. I still love him I am broken and don't know what to do. I really miss him so much that I have fallen sick too. He is very upset but due to his family, he has taken...

Dear writer, thank you for writing in. It takes courage to reach out and ask for help. I understand you are in a lot of pain over losing your boyfriend. Whether he loves you or not the fact is he made the choice to agree with his parents rather than stand by you. You want him back and it has made you sick to know that now he belongs to someone else. You still have your life and future to live and experience. Your life is not ruined but just your plans are. Unless he decides to be with you there is nothing you can do except wish him a happy married life and want the same for yourself and...
Breakups Asked by male, 21 years. single

Unable to move on from break up

Had an breakup i m coming out with serious problems of depression sadness and stress unable to focus on anything i have turned out to be a smoker of 10-20 ciagrettes from a non smoker and is struggling to do anything

Dear Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes courage to reach out for help. I understand your breakup has affected you very badly. Tell me what went wrong and how long ago did it happen? What is going through your mind? Write as much as you need to. There's no limit to writing here and it is a safe and private space to share details. I am here for you and we will figure it out together. Please message back to continue discussing. Regards
Breakups Asked by female, 34 years. single

Hello, I am currently in a 1...

Hello, I am currently in a 10 year old relationship with a guy whom I can call my only best friend. I am grateful to my parents too, who have agreed for our marriage. His family is so good & have given green flag too. Our relationship evolved from being good friends to close friends to best...

Dear writer, thank you for writing in. This is absolutely the space to write as much as you need. I understand your concern and that it upsets you when your boyfriend disconnects from you. From what you have written I can gather what your expectations are from your partner and his shortcomings as well. I understand you don't tolerate drinking and have let him know about it. Since you are more comfortable with expressing yourself, you have shared all your issues with him. Your boyfriend on the other hand is not very good at expressing himself but maybe his actions might be his way of...
Breakups Asked by male, 17 years. single

Want to forget my girlfriend focus on my studies but finding it difficult.

First i m mad without her but foe she doesn't mind and now istarted to forget her and i think this is thebest policy.And become a successful person by working hard in my studies .In the past i can't study and now i have to study.I have been seeing er often in my dream even but when i call her she...

Dear writer, thank you for writing in. Break ups are often painful and it seems as though you are hurting over yours. The anger you are feeling is perfectly normal and a natural part of losing a relationship. What is commendable is that you want to focus on yourself and your career. Channeling your anger and pain into accomplishing your goals is one way of moving on. That aside you have to give yourself time to heal. You already seem to have your goals in place but it's motivation to focus that you need help with. Although it seems difficult now, with time and consistent effort it gets...
Breakups Asked by female, 19 years. single

Need to get over my ex boyfriend. He has moved on but I haven't and feeling very bad

I need help to get over someone.. there was this guy in my life and I've trying hard to get over him. We had on and off kind relationship for 2 years. He is 8 years elder to me. He has moved on but I haven't. And I feel bad. My thoughts revolve around him. I wish to erase him completely from my...

Dear User9400, I need to know more about you and the relationship that you speak about. What were the circumstances of your meeting and what transpired in the 2 years that you were in it? It is impossible to erase things from your mind but it is possible to come to terms with it. Warm regards. Arunita Biswas
Breakups Asked by female, 19 years. single

Broke up with long distance boyfriend. Very hard for me to cope up.

I am a student of BDS 1st year. I have recently broke up with my long distance boyfriend. We had relationship of 4 months. We hardly met for 5 times in those 4 months of our relationship. He said "its getting hard for me to continue and as we have not spent time with each other fully I am not...

Dear writer, thank you for writing in. I understand that you are hurting over your recent break up. Long distance relationships are hard for some and although you know that you are willing to make it work, the fact is it takes two to make it work. Your ex didn't seem to be able to deal with the distance and he was honest enough with you. You need to ask yourself whether this is indeed over and if you are willing and ready to let go and get over him? It might feel like a painful road to move on but it is also the best way to heal. Experiences like these although painful can be chalked down...
Breakups Asked by female, 21 years. single

Feeling depressed and suicidal after breakup

I was in a three-year relationship with a classmate. We both were very much in love with each other and were serious about getting married. But he started treating me very badly; insulted me in private and public. He pretends to be very nice in front of everyone else which includes his family but...

Dear writer, the end of a relationship is painful and I understand that not only are you grieving it, you are but naturally feeling resentment towards your ex for having caused you this pain. There's also the anger you might feel towards yourself for having trusted someone so implicitly. It's at this point one can lose faith in themselves and I suspect you're experiencing some of that as well. Now this is where it's important to put things in perspective for yourself. One, you took control of a situation that was turning out to be toxic for the both of you. Second by breaking up you stood...
Breakups Asked by female, 25 years. single

I broke up with my boyfriend, now he is threatening me

I broke up with my boyfriend. I am facing threats now. I don't know what to do? He is telling me that he will send people to rape me. He will molest me. He will kidnap me. I am helpless. Please help me. Please. He is contacting my friends and asking them to tell me to stay out of his life. I am...

Hi, Thank you for writing in to us. After going through what you have shared with us I will suggest you to inform about this to your parents. However scared you are about what your parents might say to you, please inform your parents or any elder in your house. If someone is threatening you so much best is to handle it legally. Also because your safety is in question. Being honest with parents will be easier than bearing all this for long. As far as your fears are concerned, they are normal and natural. I can imagine what you might be going through. Its not easy to live in such great...
Breakups Asked by female, 21 years. single

Feel unhappy in absence of boyfriend

I am unable to get over my breakup with my boyfriend and I am unhappy.

Hi, Thank you for your query. It seems like you are going through a dilemma with your own self. Let us first try and understand what you want. You say he is your boyfriend, then why should there be a need to get over him. You are probably trying not to get obsessed with him as he seems to be obsessed with you and possessive about you. We all have needs which are fulfilled by another person or some things in life. Like physical hunger is fulfilled by food, thirst is fulfilled by water, similarly need for love is fulfilled by our near and dear ones. However it is very important to love...
Breakups Asked by female, 36 years. married

Unable to get over breakup with married man

I am unable to overcome my breakup with a married man.

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Breakups Asked by female, 19 years. single

Hurt because boyfriend is unaffected by our break up

I'm a 19 year old female who has recently broken up! Breakups for me are aweful! I can't sleep ,I've started talking less, it's really depressive and what's more depressive is seeing him everyday absolutely fine without me, not just fine but happy and not bothered. It hurts to see him because...

When the 'self' is loved by the 'self', everyone around you tends to love you more, and that is what is happening with you also. May be this person is making you realize that you are lovable and since you have started loving yourself more, everyone loves you more and you embrace the beauty in nature.This person might have come to make you realize to love yourself, since the barriers are existing, and you can't be with each other any more, there is nothing that you can do about it, but love yourself more and more. I hope you never stop loving yourself and also whenever possible break those...
Breakups Asked by male, 27 years. single

I want to stay with my married ex. But can't contol my jealousness when they are happy

I am 27 years male. I was in a long term relationship for 5 years. We were deeply in love. Or so I thought, I am not really sure. Towards the end of 5 years due to some break in communication and misunderstanding we broke up. She moved on soon as she had her marriage fixed. But I held on and did...

Hey, I see that it takes up lot of courage to put thr problem that you are facing with, here on an open portal. Saying that I must say it is a situation that hurts not just you and her, but also him. Secondly, you both are having a relationship which is unhealthy to all three of you on so many levels. You are being there for you and it is comforting for you to know that she seeks out to you and opens up to you when there are certain situations, but don't you see that when things are going just fine in between her and her husband; you are not involved and you are not part of the equation...
Breakups Asked by female, 18 years. single

My boyfriend left me and moved on with other girl. Can't control my feeling, tears or love for him

I love one boy but he leave me one day and move on with other girl. I want to move on in my life but that memories which we have I can get out of that I am trying from 3 months I want help. When I see them I feel very bad I can't control my tears. I really love him. What should I do?

Hello friend, I can understand how hard it must be for you to get through every single day, dealing with break up is always difficult and it becomes hard to move on when the person is in front of you, let this hard time pass and don't hesitate to get in touch with old friends, try to spend time with your family. There are people who love and care for you,if possible talk to them. its natural to feel sad but try to accept what happened and move on in life, you might need little more time so don't push your self to feel better immediately, start looking at what else you can do with this time,...
Breakups Asked by female, 25 years. single

Had several broken relationships, strained relationship with family

I am a 25 years old single woman depressed for nearly 7-8 years now. I had friends before. I have had 8 romantic relationships till now, and have been brutally dumped in each. This has broken me over time. I have become depressed, introvert, non trusting. I have lost all my friends. I live with...

Hi, Hold on. Breath. Give yourself a breather. I understand things are really difficult but disappearing will not solve any issue. Lets go over the issues you have pointed out: 1. Romantic Relationship 2. Losing Friends 3. Family Relationships 4. Work Affecting Believe me this is a phase and things will change for better. You are not alone, many go through these and most of the times all of these issues get intermingled and creates more chaos in life. What needs to be done is to figure out what is it that you want to work on first based on the priority and...
Breakups Asked by male, 29 years. single

Girlfriend married another guy after our breakup

My girlfriend dump me, marry another guy after 2 years leave together relationship. And I can't forget her. What shoud I do?

Hi, When the 'self' is loved by the 'self', everyone around you tends to love you more, and that is what is happening with you also. May be this person is making you realize that you are lovable and since you have started loving yourself more, everyone loves you more and you embrace the beauty in nature.This person might have come to make you realize to love yourself, since the barriers are existing, and you can't be with each other any more, there is nothing that you can do about it, but love yourself more and more. I hope you never stop loving yourself and also whenever possible break...
Breakups Asked by female, 25 years. single

How to get over breakup with married man?

hi I have had a relation with a man who is now married and has month old baby. but we were still connected though just emotionally. he asks to spend a lot of time with me and is very possesive about me , although he keeps saying we are doing nothing wrong. I feel he is obsessed with me so I broke...

Hi, I can understand impacts of decision you have taken is what is bothering you, on top of it you are made to feel guilty about your own decision but like change in any other thing, this one also is not easy and smooth, give some time to whatever you have decided and stick to it for a while, 1) involve yourself with things you love doing 2) take support from your friends and family 3) write down your emotions and thoughts Hope this helps, Meanwhile we are always here to listen to what you have to say so write back to us and talk in depth about it so we can better help you out with this
Breakups Asked by female, 23 years. single

Depression due to broken friendship

I am feeling very depressed because I lost my friendship with him .. I flam helpless can't set up the situation

Greetings for the day! I just spent some time reading, what you have written, it was really hard for you to think and write what you have written and I must say that you have a lot of courage to come to portal like this. Friendship is always extremely precious, It is hard to lose a friend and nothing that I say will help might ease your pain, but hang in there tight. You can also initiate a conversation with your friend and things can change. I also want to let you know that whatever it is, at any time of day or night, you can also engage with any of our experts, or send a message to me...
Breakups Asked by male, 20 years. single

Rejection in love but cannot get over girl

There's this situation i'm in, which I think loads of people have been in. Need a solution to this. Here's the story: 1. I love a girl, but she doesn't feel the same for me. 2. We both are in same college, and are musicians, so we perform 'together' as well. 3. She says she has no...

Hi, First of all,It seems like you're an extremely self aware indvidual, which is pretty rare. You already know the exact problem you're facing. Although you think that it's a pretty common problem that is faced by many, the way each person experiences it is different. Now you're in a situation where you like someone who isn't ready to get into a relationship with you but in a way expects you to treat them exactly the way a boyfriend does. So basically, you're the guy who's not the boyfriend. You chat everyday. You hang out everyday. I'm just guessing here, but it seems like you guys are...
Breakups Asked by male, 22 years. single

Unable to get over breakup, trying to quit smoking

I'm male, 22, I'm trying to overcome a breakup with 2 years old relationship from last 4 months.. I'm currently jobless.. i want to give time for my studies but every time my mind changes the path and make me to follow her, call her.. Everything in my relationship was real. But she broke up with...

Greetings for the dayI just spent some time reading, what you have written, and I must say that you have a lot of courage to come to portal like this.Any kind of substance dependence is not advisory at all especially when you are upset with some other thing in your life, meaning: you are coming out of your relationship, so it is advisory to not pursue smoking anymore. I know the kind of problem smoking creates, because my father was dependant on Cigarette and I must say that it was difficult after so many years of dependence on it. He used E-Cigarette to come out of it.Regarding the problem...
Breakups Asked by female, 22 years. single

Unhappy after break up, issues with family

I think I am depressed. I feel I need help but I don't confide in any one that much. The only person I was comfortable with was my boyfriend and he broke up with me 4 months back. I have friends but I don't have anyone I can be emotional with. I am unable to get over my breakup and its breaking...

Hi, From your passage I can understand that you are going through so much in your life right now. The first step to take is to seek immediate help from a psychologist near you. Talk to them about your depression and the serious emotional issues you had with your family previously. Break ups are never easy. Its hard on both partners regardless of who broke up with whom. I think your ex was a very integral part of your life. Chances are, you leaned on him frequently for emotional support. The thing is, it's important to remember that although partners are important in life, your entire life...
Breakups Asked by male, 20 years. single

Unable to focus after being rejected by girl

Hi. There's this thing i'm struggling with right now. I bet i'm not the only one with this problem, though. The things is : There's a girl, let's name her X. We're in the same college. We met 8 months ago, and we chat everyday for hours. We both are musicians and lately we've been playing...

Hi, I can understand, to be rejected by the person you want to be with, can be hard and painful. You feel like it is somehow your fault and your inadequacy has made her reject you. Let me tell you this, it is not your fault and she may not have rejected you for the person you are but because of her current frame of mind. You should not feel like this is your fault and that something is wrong with you. To overcome this feeling you can try the following strategies and see if this can help you. 1. Try and divert your attention away from negative thoughts. Since you are a musician, focusing on...