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Career Asked by female, 26 years. in_relationship

How to balance each other's careers?

In a relationship with this guy from work and I decided to tell our parents and get married. We work in an IT firm. He wants to quit IT and go back to his home town and take care of the family business. Whereas, I want to be in a different city and continue working in IT. This is where we are...

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. It seems that you are facing difficulty in making a decision with regard to your place of stay with your husband after marriage. You both are passionate towards your profession as well as want to make this relationship work. I understand that it must be a difficult position for both you and your partner to be in wherein you feel that you are made to make a choice between your career and your relationship, both of which you equally value, and you cannot seem to make that difficult a choice. Firstly, I...
Career Asked by male, 0 years. single

Lack of job; In need of motivation

I'm stuck in the middle career wise. Neither here nor there. Done with college, waiting to get a job. Life is funny. I need some motivation.

Hello, Thank you for reaching out to the Askmile team with your concerns about your career and the feeling that you are stuck without any direction. Certainly it is a difficult feeling when you find you are not getting a job after the completion of the College. At this stage in life you feel life is funny but I am not sure what you meant by it. You also say you need motivation. I am here to discuss the issue in detail with you with a view to help you find some direction. Please share with me more about yourself in this regard. Everything you share is strictly confidential. What...
Career Asked by male, 24 years. single

How to have a goal and stay motivated all the time? I am clueless

I don't have an ultimate goal in life and I don't know what I want. For this reason, I am not motivated towards work. I did my graduation from one of the best colleges and I am known to be a smart guy at work. Problem is that right now I am not motivated towards work for some reason and I am not...

Dear writer, thank you for writing in. I understand you are feeling clueless right now. So lets try and put things in perspective. To have a goal you need to start thinking about what you see yourself doing down the line. Also what is your personal definition of having goals. Is it succes, is it accomplishing your tasks?? Think about what interests you and if they allign with what you have studied so far. If they don't then that's fine too. Start thinking about what will get you up. Are you experiencing lethargy at work? It will help you to know that it is impossbile to stay motivated all...
Career Asked by female, 27 years. married

Career stress is leading me to depression

I think I am dealing with depression, not sure because I don't have many reasons to be in the depression. My family life is good. In my job, I am not doing that well I think that's the reason of my stress I am not able to express myself fully and all the time something about career goes in my...

Hello, I understand you are a 27 year old, married, and employed female. There is no stress in family life. But you do experience some kind of stress from work which make you feel you are depressed. What are the symptoms of depression you talking about. You need to give us some more details if we have to respond comprehensively.
Career Asked by male, 15 years. single

Which subjects should I study in class XI in order to become a chef?

Which subjects should I study in class XI in order to be able to do a hotel management course and become a chef?

Hi there! Thanks for your question. It does not matter what subject you take in 11th standard. To apply for hotel management courses at bachelor's level you just need to complete your high school education. You will require to sit for an all-India examination by the National Council for Hotel Management (NCMH), followed by group discussion and interview. Depending on your rank, you will get the option of selecting a college of your choice. Wish you all the best!
Career Asked by male, 26 years. single

Dissatisfied with work and want to move ahead in life

I am unhappy with the way my work life is progressing. I want to move ahead in life but I am not sure how to do it.

Hello Sudhanshu, Greetings for the day, I know exactly how you feel and this is a place where I was at 2 years ago. I couldn't focus on anything, didn't want to do anything. Realised that what I was going through was a phase in my life to make me focus on the important things that had to be looked upon by me during this phase. If not for that phase I wouldn't have probably looked at it and realised. If you are not satisfied with your work, the next thing to do is to know what exactly fulfills you and in what work are you finding your peace of mind. Since you really wish to move on,...
Career Asked by male, 25 years. single

Studying B.Sc. IT but not comfortable with programming

I am pursuing a bachelor's degree in IT, but I am not comfortable with programming. What should I do?

Greetings :) I see that you are doing Bsc(IT) from the above Kuvempu University and let me tell you that if you plan it well you can enjoy it and at the same time understand it is perfectly natural to not know what you want to do, I may suggest you to take sometime and travel to places, get to know what all you can do, and get some hands-on experience, that is how you develop interest in something, post that you can pursue same course if you still feel it is important. When I started out, I was not comfortable with so many things that I had to learn in my degree, but that didn't stop me...
Career Asked by female, 23 years. single

Lost job twice, parents not allowing to relocate for airlines job

I am unable to decide which career to choose. I have lost my job twice and my parents do not approve of me working with an airlines company.

Hi Thank you for having faith in us to help u with ur career dilemma. Career definitely is something which gives us an identity and also satisfaction that we have contributed to this earth. You must be feeling so not at place in sales when u want to work in airlines and come back home each day feeling good about what you have done. It must be tough to deal. With the decision of your parents. I would recommend two things. One you keep trying to convince your parents in a very nice manner without losing your patience and cool to let you select your career. Do not get upset or...
Career Asked by female, 19 years. single

Confused about career options, feeling unhappy

I am confused about which career to choose such that I will get paid well and I will not regret later. I have lost interest in my hobbies, traveling, or studies.

Greetings for the day!Motivation is a tricky thing to corral. It is tricky, but not at all impossible. Motivation lies in your head and this is the science behind it: Dopamines chemical signal gets passed from one neuron to the next, interacting with various receptors inside the synapse between the two neurons.Another argument is that Dopamine was all about pleasure, but pleasure is just the tip of the iceberg, Dopamines effect on the body is felt in many areas on our respective bodies, including motivation, memory, behaviour, cognition, attention, mood, learning and also pleasurable...
Career Asked by female, 19 years. single

Career stuck for 3 years, father pressuring for marriage

My career has been stagnant for three years and my father is pressuring me to get married.

Hey,I read what you are feeling, and knowing that you cannot continue what you want to do must be frustrating, but you should let go of your education and the will to seek knowledge in midst of getting married.At the age of 17, Yousafzai was the youngest Nobel Prize recipient ever. She was also the second Pakistani and first ethnic Pashtun to be awarded a Nobel Prize. All that was possible with a calm and 'Can do' attitude. How did she do that, by sheer perseverance and the attitude of wanting to do it.I suggest you must and should go for it and have a conversation with your parents about...
Career Asked by male, 14 years. single

Should I take up research or politics?

I just wanted to know which path should i take. I love physics and could go to any country outside after study for research and live my dream. And the other confusion is that I want to change my city, my country, change people's mindset and want to develop my country and remove corruption and...

From your question it is clearly visible that your inclination is more towards politics. however you have also shown interest in Physics. But politics is an open field where everyone irrespective of their carrer path can join if they have an interest to do something for the society. As you love physics so you can first pursue your career by either opting M.sc in physics and phd in physics and once you have obtained your highest qualification, you can come to politics and share your vision in a much broader sense.
Career Asked by female, 19 years. single

Feeling low after being rejected at hackathons despite being good student

I'm currently a 2nd year Computer Science Engineering student. I've been pretty competitive throughout and academics has always been my strength. However after getting rejected at a couple of hackathons, I have hit a low. This feeling gets worse when I see my peers doing something that can build...

Hey, I can totally understand what you are trying to say, because I had been there and the worse thing I was doing at that time was to compare myself to the peers that I had and feel bad about the performance. I had my teacher who spoke to me and told me that I should tryst my ability to trust myself to do things at my own pace and she gave me a beautiful example of 'If you judge a fish on the ability to climb a tree, a fish can never perform better, but give fish water and the fish can do wonders.' This example has stayed with me throughout my life, and I could see clearly that If I...
Career Asked by male, 25 years. single

Need career guidance

I need guidance as to which career to choose.

Dear Avish Thanks for your question. Please share your concerns in detail and let us know what sort of guidance are you seeking for your career. Dr Anshu
Career Asked by female, 23 years. single

Interested in baking and card making. Which course to take?

I am working as a software developer from last one year after completing my graduation in electronics and communication. I am not happy with my job. I am not able to develop interest in coding. I need to change my track which post graduation course can i opt. I have interest in baking and card...

I can understand your situation very well. looking at your question it is clearly visible that you have no interest in coding. your inclination is more towards hotel management and Animation. But my advise to you is that as you have done your graduation in electronics and communication field so changing your path from present to the entirely different field is Practically not possible, as for hotel management course you need to have graduation in Hotel management . But there is always a solution to a problem. you can go for short term diploma courses where you can utilize your culinary...
Career Asked by female, 17 years. single

Don't feel like studying for Board exams, unable to start

I am feeling empty. No ambition, no inspiration to do anything. I'm just lying on bed the whole day. I'm a 17 year old girl and I have my boards coming up. I know I have to start studying but I don't feel like studying. I try but I just can't start.

Hello Friend, I can understand how you feel, would you like to tell little more about yourself? from how long you have been feeling this way? feel free to talk if anything is bothering you, you can still start preparing for the exams, we can discuss few study skills to organised you study routine. Thank you for sharing , looking forward to listen from you.
Career Asked by female, 45 years. married

What subjects should 16-year-old take up in IB board for a good career?

I am a mother of boy aged 16 years who is studying in 10th standard but very distracted. He never take up challenges. He always in give up mode. I don't understand him and we don't have good relationship now as a mother and child. Because he is rebel child. He doesn't want to listen anyone and he...

Dear parent, I would really encourage you to think that your child is acting rebellious for a reason, his behaviour is not because of nothing. what i am trying to say is behaviour is just outer expression, from which we can judge, if you want to understand him, you will have to go to core reason because of which he is behaving in this way. There are two things which parents often miss, one being healthy autonomy of teenager and another rebelling, often confused by parents, its time you figure out what is it for your child? Rebellious behaviour or just greater need of being...
Career Asked by male, 18 years. single

Unable to concentrate on Class XII board studies

I would be giving Class XII boards this time. I am not able to concentrate on studies. What should I do?

Career Asked by male, 17 years. single

Confused about career after studying science and maths

What Should I do in my future carrer? I am very confused regarding my carrer? Now I am in class 11 and the stream is science maths but i have not any goal? Please help me in taking true decisions

Thanks for writing to us. We can understand your situation very well. Now a days when everyone is running after one another in search of a good job and in acquiring good qualifications in such a situation if someone is not clear about future goals then a person feels restless. So i think first you need to be clear about yourself that  whether you  are ready for doing a corp orates job in the future or you want to have a settled and relaxed life. once you are clear about your liking then your career options could be either you go for engineering option by giving various entrance exams of...
Career Asked by female, 19 years. single

Okay to leave college in second year of course due to hostel issues?

Hi I am an architecture student in second year. I took architecture because I wanted to pursue it and plus it was my parents dream. I've always been a pampered child and I got admitted in a college and I live in hostel. I really don't like living in hostel. Hostel life makes me sad and I am not...

Hello, Always be honest about your grades, and dont let them ever find about your grades, because that makes them feel worse all the more. It is always better to tell them before hand and tell them the honest reason so as to why did you get bad grades, also since education is for your betterment as well, it is no harm in performing well. If you feel like crying, dont hold back. Do cry and apologising to your parents will be the next thing to do.Ask your parents to co-create a space with them, wherein you ask your parents about how you want to incorporate some effective technique changes in...
Career Asked by female, 21 years. single

Loss of interest in life, stagnant career

In Very Bad Situation - Feeling Like Life Is Being LOST Although Am Living My Daily Routine Life, But It Feels Like I Have Lost My Self Somewhere Else, No Joy-No Excitement-No Happiness-No Willingness Nothing Is Going Good. I Don't Even Get Time For Myself, Always HOME-TRAVEL-WORK And Vice Versa...

Hi :) First of all I'd like to appreciate you for taking the first step and writing to us. Contrary to what you say, it actually shows that you have self love and you want to protect yourself. Reading what you've wrote, it feels like your mind is a rollercoaster and there's a huge whirlwind of emotions that's bottled up in there and you're so overwhelmed by it all. From what you've told me it seems like you're not happy with your job mostly, and the source of your unhappiness starts there. That's pretty understandable since we spend most of our time at our workplaces, including travel,...
Career Asked by male, 20 years. single

How to tell parents about exam failure due to low attendance?

I'm a 3rd year B.tech student, who got detained in most of the subjects due to low attendance. I was told that I have been detained in 1 subject, and I told it to my parents, and it got really bad. Now I am told that I have been detained in 6 out of 9 subjects. I can't take this, and its too...

Parents naturally become upset because they always have seen their kid as best and it is really important for their children to succeed. Even if they are fine with their children to perform average, but the society doesnt let them be at par with that, they always put the pressure of performance, eventually that performance pressure comes on the children as well.Always be honest about your grades, and dont let them ever find about your grades, because that makes them feel worse all the more. It is always better to tell them before hand and tell them the honest reason so as to why did you get...
Career Asked by male, 26 years. single

Worried about the future

I am depressed in my life .what to do in my future.

Hi there, From what you've said, I can understand that you're going through a bit of a rough patch right now. You feel depressed and you're unsure about the future. I'm guessing the fact that you are unsure about the future is causing you some anxiety. Maybe we could discuss this further. What is the trigger for your depression and why are you anxious about the future. Probably you could give us a bit more information about yourself so that we can help you better. Do write us back. Take care
Career Asked by female, 21 years. single

Dissatisfied with job, unable to study further, relationship getting affected

Hi. I am 21 year old(female) . I am a b tech pass out n got placed in an mnc since then i am working in that mnc from last one year ( have package ok, ok but good for starting ). I am not that happy with my job but i am satisfied because there is sooo much to learn . There are many good...

Greetings,It is very clearly that, all the aspects of your life is currently at a very low level energy and you would need to shift the energy upside down and make it nice and good space to be in.For that clearly you have to make some changes and bring about a perspective change:1) Organize your time wellSleep on timeAllot time to all the tasks that you have for each day, and try to stick on thatWrite down the things to do each day2) Make a planPlanningPreparationPracticePresentation3) Train yourself to think in a Step-Wise order and Logical orderJust follow easy steps and make small yet...
Career Asked by female, 17 years. single

Which stream to pursue after class XII?

I really don't know what I'm going to do after 12th , I'm really confused and lost . I have literally no interest in anything at all. I've looked up a number of courses and stuff . My grades are getting affected because I don't know what to do . I don't have a direction which makes me not study...

Greetings, Now that you are doing something, I request you to kindly focus upon that and get that done with good grades, because those good grades will help you in pursuing anything that you like after you have made up your mind :) Secondly, it is perfectly natural to not know what you want to do, I may suggest you to take sometime and travel to places, get to know what all you can do, and get some hands-on experience, that is how you develop interest in something, post that you can pursue some course in what you had discovered then. Thanks.
Career Asked by female, 17 years. single

Cannot pursue college studies due to conservative parents, unable to focus

Hi. Can you help me. I finished my schooling, but I'm not allowed for college. Parents are so religious, they ask me to go to Islamic school. And I'm getting married next year. I really want to be like other girls, and I'm doing my correspondence course in nutrition and dietetics, and medical...

Greetings,This is an issue, which you need to take a stance and make sure that your voice is heard, because I need one person in Gujarat, who after one of my session came up to and told me the same thing that, she needs to study further, but her family is also staunch in their religious views. That is where I told following the religious views is an essential key. It is mentioned in the holy Quran as well:It was narrated that Anas bin Mlik said: The Messenger of Allah said Seeking knowledge is a duty upon every Muslim. (Sunan Ibn e Majah, Book of Sunnah, Hadith no 224, Classified as Sahih...
Career Asked by female, 18 years. single

Chose incorrect college for studies, unable to change college now

I scored good marks in HSC examination i wanted to go in top most college but thought I got opportunity to go in best college in city. But I don't know i thought at that time all colleges are same and miss that opportunity to go in best college and stay back to inferior some average low college....

Hi, Reading your passage, i can understand feelings of sadness and guilt you have for loosing on opportunity to be in one of the best college for career you are planning to pursue. When reality is that good college gives good exposure and start, it is equally true that majority of it lies in your hand of how to utilise that opportunity, there are number of examples where even after getting in the best school/college student did not end up doing great in their career, and equal number of examples where students from unknown colleges making it big and shinning, at the end college is made up...
Career Asked by male, 34 years. single

How to balance work ethics and politics at the workplace?

How do we figure out a balance between politics and work ethics in office. I feel not having a balance between these two causes issues which i am facing currently

Hi, I understand how important and integral part both these aspects are in office, striking balance between power dynamics and work ethics is completely essential at an individual level as well as at office level for smooth and fair functioning. i can imagine how torn you feel between the two in attempts to balance it. I would suggest you Reflect upon, what is position that you are in, and what kind of change would you be able to bring in the system and individual level? if you can share things like situations where these confusions come in? i would be better able to help you in bringing...
Career Asked by female, 20 years. single

What line to pursue after B.Com and company secretary course?

sir , i am doing my company secretary (executive) and Last year of my b.com .I am really confused that what i should do ?? After bcom within two years i wants to explore my self fully after two years i want my own job and great career .Iam confused should i do Mcom with LLB i would like to...

Greetings :) You can pursue the professional degree, it can always help you out. Anytime you can go to a field where you can be a guest lecturer with your professional degree and keep up your spirit. You are a learner and you want to share what you have learnt which is an extremely good trait. Pursue LLB/B.ed, because both are professional degrees and it can help you out at any given time of your life.
Career Asked by male, 36 years. married

Boss takes credit for my work, does not allow new ideas

I need to deal with constant workplace conflicts that make me stressed, overwhelmed and unable to focus on anything. It all started when I started to work with this new company. Everything was fine until when myself and my manager started together on a project. The problem is he doesn't really...

Hi, I understand the intensity of frustration and stress you must be feeling when you have good ideas and are yet not allowed to execute them, and hence i also understand your concern of switching job, however from your description it seems like there are no other issues work wise apart from the way in which your manager works. So first having conversation with manager on the same can be considered, chances are he is not aware of these things, and may attempt making changes in his approach once you express your concerns. if you are thinking about it, try to communicate it in a way where...
Career Asked by male, 17 years. single

Dropped a year at engineering college due to illness, not allowed to pursue B.Sc.

Hi...I'm from tamilnadu...I completed my hsc last year with a good mark..that mark makes my parents thought that I can be a engineer..and so by their compulsion I joined engineering.. The main problem is I left my hometown and entered a Clg in chennai... There I faced lot of troubles and become...

Hi there, I can understand your feelings, your parents are the most important part of your life and you feel like you have let them down whenever they scold you. You are feeling sad and depressed. first, let me tell you that you did not do anything wrong, adjusting to a new environment can be challenging and not everyone can do it. Also, you were not interested in engineering and it is alway better for you to pursue something that you are interested in. You need hep in two things. First, you need to working on your relationship with your parents as that will help you cope with the guilt and...
Career Asked by male, 21 years. single

Career options after MBBS?

I am in 2 professional MBBS in government college in india . what are my career options .

Hi, Medicine is a field of study that has numerous options available. However, It all depends on which area you are most interested in. If you want more clarity as to which field of medicine you should specialize in I would recommend taking assessments. This will give you more clarity on which branch is most suited to your personality and which will bring you satisfaction in the long run. Send me a private message and I can help you choose which tests you should take to give you this clarity. Look forward to hearing from you. :) 
Career Asked by male, 21 years. single

Unable to pursue course of choice due to financial constraints, depressed

I want to become a Commercial Pilot since my childhood. But my family can't afford it. Currently , I'm persuing B.tech(Mechanical Engg.) 5 semester from a college of my Lucknow. I think m going in a wrong direction as my dream didn't seems to be come true. Infact, m interested only n only to...

Hi, I can understand your frustrations, you want to pursue something but are unable to do so because of factors that are out of your control. If you are keen on pursuing your pilot training there are some options for you, where your parents need not put in all of the money. 1. Scholarships - Air India, Indian Airlines, JRD TATA Memorial and Madras flying club do provide limited scholarships to get your commercial licenses and get basic training. You can check out on their respective websites for further information. 2. Education Loans - Many banks today offer education loans for students to...
Career Asked by male, 39 years. married

Need advice about specialization choice after Diploma in electrical

Worried about career for management I have done diploma in electrical which specialization should I select I have 15 years of experience in project management in shopping mall, multistory building etc

Hi there, It is great to see you working on your skills at this stage. Kudos to you. Have you completed your diploma in electrical engineering? Can you share a little more clarity what your previous course entailed and what your role has been in the past? This will help me give you better and more detailed choices. Please send me a private message and we can take it from there. Look forward to hearing from you. :) 
Career Asked by male, 23 years. single

How to balance caring for parents and pursuing dreams?

I want to do something big in life and for that I should leave my parents. They want me to pursue my dream but they are aging and need me. If I go my parents suffer.if I stay still my parents suffer because I couldn't pursue my dream. What should I do?

Hi, I can understand your dilemma it is a tough decision to make. Perhaps sharing what your dreams and aspirations are will help us give you more clarity on the matter. Once you share a little more details we can work on other alternatives where you can do both, pursue your dreams and look after your parents as well. Send me a private message and we can take it from there.  I look forward to hearing from you. :) 
Career Asked by male, 18 years. single

Which extra curricular activity should I choose in college?

I dont know my interest i want to di something great wish to become arole model i love music photography badminton writting playing guitar singing acting modelling going into the deep of everything love researching and pursuing engineering right now First year what should i do i am not good at...

Hi, Understanding which career path you should choose can be difficult. It is great that you have high aspirations, however, you seem to be confused as to how to achieve them. The following questions need to be taken into account while you are contemplating your career path. 1. Who are you? what are your strengths? This will come only through introspection and take the time to understand yourself.2. What are your likes and dislikes? Not just in terms of career but generally as well. List down activities that you would like to do every day all day. 3. How do your strengths match with what...
Career Asked by male, 29 years. married

Loss of motivation and confidence due to setbacks at workplace

I work in an large IT company last 3 years and I am feeling very useless last 4-5 months. I was promised Europe on-site work, but given to another team member. I lost motivation to work, feel not confident to look for job change. Anxious about career.

Hi, incidents like these, when you are promised certain work and not given the same is bound to make any one feel demotivated and sometimes gives rise in feelings of self-doubt and anxiety, these are same feelings which at times gives us good opportunity to reflect inside and help us understand where we stand and how can we perform better at work. Talking to concern person in your company expressing your feelings and understanding reasons for their decision will help you deal with it in much better way. may be they do not know how important it was for you, and chances are that with this...
Career Asked by male, 34 years. single

Unable to accept authority of peer who has become my manager now

I have a manager who was my peer till few months back and was less competent than me (objectively proven through reviews). I don't respect him to be a better professional than me and hate that he has been made my manager. This is affecting our working relationship and causes daily stress....

As much as you resent the fact that your peer is now your manager, you may have to accept it. If you are not keen on leaving your current employment as yet. Here are few ways you can cope with the change, and help improve your working environment. 1. You could talk to your one-over manager. It is likely that he/she is the one who was responsible for the promotion of your peer. Talk to them and find out what were their reasons for choosing your peer over you. Start by assuring them that you are mature enough to handle this change and understand what their perspective was while making the...
Career Asked by female, 26 years. single

Decreased performance at workplace due to rejection in love

I'm in with love a boy and i felt he liked it as well but then he said he don't love me. i feel heartbroken. i think about him and miss him all the time. i'm not able to sleep, focus on work. bcos of that my performance has suffered in office and everyone can see that. i dont know what to do and...

Hey dear.. Good of you to take a step in solving the problem. Life is tough and difficult moments come. Many a times what we want is not what we get and that doesn't mean life is any less beautiful. You need to try and take your mind into things which interest you. You had a beautiful life before this guy comes into your life and you still can have the same. Try and engage yourself into activities which you enjoy doing. Join some group classes like Zumba, trekking, dance etc. Go out with friends. Think of dating again. Few weeks later, you would laugh on how silly this time was....