Emotionless Marriage

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Emotionless Marriage Asked by male, 40 years. married

Mechanical sex life, fights in marriage, staying together due to children. Recently attached to a girl not able to forget!

I am married and have two kids, mine is arrange marriage and we both selected each other, there was no compulsion. From first day of marraige I realized that she is not much interested in sex. And the problem started from there, plus we had kid very early in marriage and the bonding did not take...

Any relationship requires the effort and consent of two people. Although you and your wife agreed mutually to marry, there are a lot of factors that go into the building of intimacy and love between a couple. Your wife seemed disinterested in sex from the beginning of your marriage. There could be various reasons for this- often women who are raised in strongly conservative families are taught to shun sex and their sexuality for a long time or till when they're married. Some women even after marriage have troubling embracing the idea of pleasure for themselves because they're told it's most...
Emotionless Marriage Asked by female, 31 years. married

Selfish husband sees only his side, never feels for me. I feel miserable and helpless!

My husband and I have been married a year and a half. Yet I feel he doesn't know or understand me. I feel my issues, feeling, etc, only matter to me. He only sees his side, never mine. If the problem I have doesn't affect him or make him feel uncomfortable then it's no problem. He only wants to...

I sense your pain and hurt in not having your husband understand you and it sounds like you do not feel he is bothered about you unless it does not bother him. You seem to find it difficult to have a meaningful relationship with him. You long for his commitment to you and to this relationship but his surface level efforts leave you feeling disappointed and helpless. One marries in the hope of building a future 'together' and it seems though as if your husband either isn't aware of your needs and expectations of this marriage or that he is not entirely committed to fulfilling his part in...
Emotionless Marriage Asked by female, 38 years. married

Emotionless, sexless marriage, no fatherly responsibilities taken

My husband does not take up any fatherly responsibilities. We are in an emotionless and sexless marriage.

Living with a spouse who does not care for your needs in the marriage is extremely difficult and not preferable. To top it, he expects you to take responsibility of the kids while he can choose to not contribute. This seems really unfair on you. What could be done in this situation is that you can address few thing about the issue at hand: What would you like to have from this relationship for you to be emotionally and physically happy in the marriage? What would it take for your husband to cater to that? What would it take for you to cater to that? What is causing for you...
Emotionless Marriage Asked by female, 30 years. married

No respect, trust, or intimacy in marriage

My husband does not respect or trust me. We do not have any communication or intimacy either.

One enters into marriage with dreams of hoping to start a new journey with their partner that is filled with love and happiness. For a happy and successful marriage, both partners need to be equally invested to work towards it. With the basic trust, respect, communication and intimacy not in place for a strong foundation, anything that is built upon it will turn out to be shaky. This is certainly not why someone enters into a marriage. I can imagine your pain and agony. For starters, what you could try is to explore the reasons behind these issues. Some of the common reasons why a...
Emotionless Marriage Asked by male, 42 years. married

Wife has distanced herself from me, blames me, insults me

My wife has become cold towards me. She blames me for everything, insults me and demoralizes me. We have not slept together for eight months. She does not want divorce but she wants to stay away from me.

It seems like your wife is trying to communicate something to you but the message has not been received either because her communication isn't clear enough or you haven't paid attention to the right things. It seems like she is quite upset and angry for some reason.It is important to know what has upset your wife so deeply that she has cut off from you completely. You can try to talk to her privately or seek the help of a trusted family member or friend to initiate this. It may require a few attempts of you to be able to get her to open up , as she seems quite distraught. It will...
Emotionless Marriage Asked by female, 34 years. married

How to survive an unhappy marriage?

Our marriage feels suffocating and we are unhappy. How do we survive through this situation?

One enters into marriage with dreams of hoping to start a new journey with their partner that is filled with love and happiness. For a happy and successful marriage, both partners need to be equally invested to work towards it. With the marriage beginning to feel suffocating leaving you both unhappy is certainly not why someone enters into a marriage. I can imagine your pain and agony. It would help for you and your spouse to go for marital therapy. What it would do is provide you both a safe space to be heard patiently without any judgement, address the issues causing suffocation and...
Emotionless Marriage Asked by female, 38 years. married

No emotional connect with spouse, unable to leave because of the kids

Although I have been married for 17 years, my husband and I do not have an emotional connection. I want to leave the marriage but I am afraid that my kids will be emotionally damaged.

Thank you for writing in to us. Recognising when you need help and reaching out for the same is the first courageous step to be able to take towards a better self. One enters into marriage with dreams of hoping to start a new journey with their partner that is filled with love and happiness. For a happy and successful marriage, both partners need to be equally invested to work towards it. With the basic emotional needs not met and enduring a feeling of loneliness even with your partner is certainly not why someone enters into a marriage. I can imagine your pain and agony. Before...
Emotionless Marriage Asked by female, 37 years. married

Trouble in second marriage, multiple abortions, no trust or communication

My second marriage is in trouble with no communication and regular fights. I have sacrificed a lot and I have had multiple abortions and still there is a lot of pressure from my in laws in the marriage. My MIL does not treat me well. I do not know whether to remain in this marriage anymore or not.

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. It seems that you are facing difficulty in your marriage. This is your second marriage and you are having to face issues with in laws and matters regarding your children. There is a lot of pressure of expectations from you and you seem to feel pressurised and trapped under these burdens. You are confused whether to continue in the relationship or to separate. I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to be in given that you have already gone through a divorce before and managed to give...
Emotionless Marriage Asked by female, 34 years.

Boredom in marriage, no interest in life

My marriage is boring and I have no interest in life. Help!

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. It seems that you are facing difficulty in your marriage. I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to be in considering you do not seem to be happy in it. Firstly, I would appreciate the courage in you for being able to manage so far. Also, in order to be able to assist you better, could you tell me in detail a little bit about yourself and your husband as individuals and about your marriage? Was it an arranged or love? Since when have you both been married? How was it in the...
Emotionless Marriage Asked by , years.

Troubled marriage. Being from orthodox Christian family how to stop upcoming divorce?

I am going through a very tough time in my life. Has lots of issues between me and my husband. Just been one year of our marriage. It was all my mistake. But now that all mess I done. My husband is depressed my family is deperessed. I am from a orthodox Christian family. And divorce is a very bad...

I'm sorry to hear that your relationship with your family isn't good at the present time. When you say the issue is resolved, could you give me more information on how and what you did to resolve it?
Emotionless Marriage Asked by female, 33 years. divorced

He has affected me physically, mentally, socially, emotionally and financially. How to get out from this relationship?

I am married since 9 years and wish to get out from this relationship. I am heartbroken from his deception and my insecurities. He has affected me physically, mentally, socially, emotionally and financially. I seek your guidance and help on this matter.

Dear Writer, thank you for writing in. I understand you are very troubled over the relationship you are in. You said it has drained you physically, emotionally, socially and financially. It has left you heartbroken because of his deception and lies. Could you tell me more about yourself as an​ individual and what led to you being in a relationship with a man who didn't commit to you, for so many years? Please message back to continue discussing. I am here to help. Regards.