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In-Laws Problems Asked by female, 31 years. married

Unhappy marriage due to controlling nature of in-laws

My in-laws control my husband and our marriage. I am unhappy about it.

One enters into marriage with dreams of hoping to start a new journey with their partner that is filled with love and happiness. Having your relationship controlled by your in-laws can be frustrating and is certainly not why someone enters into a marriage. I can imagine your pain and agony. For a happy and successful marriage, both partners need to be equally invested to work towards it. When we advise or when someone advises us, it usually is with the intention of helping out. However, too much of it conveys to the other that they do not believe enough in you to be able to manage the...
In-Laws Problems Asked by female, 32 years. married

Issues with MIL, low confidence, negative thoughts

I have low self-esteem due to issues with my mother-in-law. I feel negative and broken. Help.

One enters into marriage with dreams of hoping to start a new journey with their partner that is filled with love and happiness. Having your relationship controlled by your in-laws can be frustrating and is certainly not why someone enters into a marriage. I can imagine your pain and agony. For a happy and successful marriage, both partners need to be equally invested to work towards it. Speak about your concerns with your husband as well if needed. It's important to have your spouse support you at such times. I understand your concerns and it would help for you to find an...
In-Laws Problems Asked by male, 36 years. married

Spouse does not want to stay in touch with in-laws

My spouse does not want me to stay in touch with my parents and brother. She has refused to let my parents visit our infant daughter and she lives with her parents. There were disagreements between our families during the marriage ceremonies.

It seems like your spouse has taken the disagreements during your ceremony a little strongly. It is possible that she felt offended strongly and that's why she doesn't want you or your daughter maintain any relationship with your family. I think talking to your wife about what your family means to you might help, of course not to make it look like your marriage is less important, but that those relationships mean a lot to you as well. Despite the disagreements, the two of you ended up married and the ceremonies are long over. Your wife is still dwelling in the past and letting your...
In-Laws Problems Asked by female, 29 years. married

MIL's interference caused misunderstanding between me and my husband

Hi,mai 30 saal ki hu ,meri shaadi pichle saal me huyi or tb se abhi tk mai apne husband k sath sirf 5 mahine hi rah paayi . unki mummy ki vajah se humare beech galatfahmiyaa shuru huyi jo abhi tk khtm nhi ho pa rhi h.ab vo mujhse kah rhe h ki unhe mere sath rhna hi nhi h, roj phone par humare...

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. Just to understand you better, are you comfortable with me responding to you in English? Do let me know if you have any difficulty understanding. You can continue to write your concerns in Hindi. It seems that you are facing difficulty in your marriage because of the misunderstandings created by your mother in law. It must be hurting you for not having your husband trust you and support you. I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to be in. Firstly, I would appreciate the courage in...
In-Laws Problems Asked by female, 30 years. married

How to convince my in-laws to accept me as I am legally married to their son?

Hi, Mine was a court marriage that happened last year and I informed my family after some time. So they accepted it and arranged a temple wedding with rituals. But my husband's family did not accept it and they did not attend the wedding in the temple. There was no one from my husband's family...

Hi Writer, thank you for reaching out to us. I'm sure its very difficult to not be accepted by your husband's family and it does sound like this is very important to you. Is this impacting your marriage or your relationship in any way?
In-Laws Problems Asked by female, 24 years. married

My mother-in-law creates misunderstanding between us and we fight!

I was married 3 months ago but my marriage not working because my mother in law always try to create misunderstandings then we fight. It is third time I came to mother house.

Dear Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes courage to reach out and ask for help. I understand you are going through a difficult time in your marriage. However to understand better, could you tell more about yourself and your husband and the problems between the two of you? You seem to have a complicated relationship with your mother-in-law​. What misunderstandings is she creating? What lead to you leaving your house for the third time? Please message back to continue discussing. I am here to help. Regards
In-Laws Problems Asked by female, 34 years. married

Husband gives priority to MIL. I feel avoided

I am 34 year married woman, my problem is my husband is not interested in me, his priorities are his friends and his mother. He always take his mothers side whenever we had arguments. I feel so avoided with him. I don't see any future of our relation, because he thinks he is always right. Please...

Thanks for reaching out to the askmile team with your concerns about your marriage, particularly your feeling that you are ignored and avoided by your husband. I do understand that such experiences create a lot of negative reactions in you. As it was a love marriage during courtship and post-marriage you found your husband very supportive and understanding which was your best experience. But the current experience in the marriage make you feel depressed and uncertain about the future of the relationship. You have given 100% to this marriage but do not feel the same level of reciprocation...
In-Laws Problems Asked by female, 29 years. married

My In-laws visit unannounced often, manipulate my home, disturb my privacy and peace. Husband is scared to confront

My In-laws visit unannounced often and stay over for weeks. They take over every aspect of the house to the extent that I feel like a guest in my own house. They are culturally very different and my life turns topsy turvy to the extent I hate going back home after work. I work in a very senior...

Dear writer, thank you for writing to us. I understand your frustration regarding you in-laws visits. I wouldn't call it an overreaction specially since I understand it's coming from a place of wanting a sanctuary for your self in your own house. The trouble being, it's also a sanctuary for your in-laws. You are entitled in wanting some privacy and space and the freedom to make your own plans. Perhaps it's easier for your husband to handle his parents visits, simply because he has grown up with it and is therefore more at home with them. Now in a situation like this, even using diplomacy...
In-Laws Problems Asked by female, 33 years. single

His Grand-father delaying our arrange marriage approval. I am upset!

I am a 33-year-old female. I am going through an arranged marriage process from one of the matrimonial sites, a guy have expressed interest in me and have called my father for the marriage proposal. My father asked for his kundali which had matched. Then, the guy has no father so he asked my...

Dear Writer, thank you for writing to us. I am sorry to hear about your mother's passing. With the arranged marriage process I instead it must be a confusing and hurtful time as well. I take it that this man and you are both interested in each other. His grandfather is causing a delay in moving things ahead. To not know the reason must be frustrating. It's important in situations like this to take a firm stand. Either this guy takes a stand and takes a decision, or you have to take a decision. Ask yourself whether you can wait for him if it seems worth it? Do you trust him? Giving yourself...
In-Laws Problems Asked by male, 35 years. married

financial issues at home with in laws

Me and my wife are living together along with my mother, father, wife and bother ( unmarried ) in home for which me and my wife are paying EMIs. Whenever I get into argument for any wrong doing in the home they think that I m showing authority on my home. Similarly in case of my wife whenever she...

Dear Writer, thank you for writing in. I understand your frustration. From what I gather the source of all the contention might have to do with the EMIs you and your wife are paying. But before I get to that can you tell more about these 'wrong doings' at home. What kind of situation leads to an argument? It's possible that your parents' way of settling an argument is by saying you are challenging their authority and your paying EMIs doesn't make them answerable to you. In some households it is considered that the person who handles financial responsibilities becomes the head of the...
In-Laws Problems Asked by female, 25 years. married

Issues with in-laws

Hi me and husband are married for 11 months. I am 7 months pregnant. I am presently staying at my mother's place. There has been a constant struggle between me and my in laws. At quiet few times they have insulted me and asked me to get out of their house. After my last fight with my laws I...

Dear writer, thank you for writing in. Congratulations on your pregnancy, although I understand it has been a stressful time for you. The difficult relationship between you and your in-laws is affecting your marriage and that is upsetting you. You have been living separately for 4 months and the few visits and calls are peppered with fights which spoils the time you get with your husband. Now if it weren't for the problem involving your in-laws how was your marriage doing? Either this in-law issue is an isolated problem or it has gone ahead and created other problems between the two of you....
In-Laws Problems Asked by female, 32 years. married

Cunning in-laws, my husband slapped me by influence of MIL. I left home!

I am married for last 3 years and I have a daughter. My problem is that my in-laws are very cunning. My mother-in-law is dominating to an extent, but I don't follow what she says, so now out of her influence my husband is against me. They try to save money, every time I ask them to get something...

Dear Writer, I appreciate your writing in. It must be difficult and at the very least painful for you to find yourself in this situation. Although you have said that your in laws are the problem, lets also look at the relationship between you and your husband. The recent altercations between the two of you has led him to hurt you physically and it clearly upsets you. You don't accept that your husband should be slapping you at all, no matter how angry he feels. I second you there. Slapping is physical abuse. No matter how provoked one feels, resorting to physical abuse/ violence is wrong...