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Parenting Asked by female, 35 years. married

Lack of support from husband in taking care of baby

Hi am in total confused state of mind. My baby is nearing 15 months. My hubby doesn't like the concept of day care or maids looking after the baby. So I quit work. All baby's activities daily and even weekend is done by me with support of my dad who stay with me. My hubby from morning till...

Dear writer, thank you for writing in. It takes courage to reach out for help. I understand you are feeling confused about what you need to do. You take care of your child and quit your work to manage it because your husband wasn't comfortable with the idea of you working . Was this ever a point of issue between the two of? It upsets you when he doesn't contribute in taking care of your baby. You feel he excuses himself. Although you understand he works a lot, his idea of unwinding doesn't include family time. He keeps himself occupied with his gadgets. I think it makes you feel like...
Parenting Asked by female, 39 years. married

Husband is least bothered about our son's upbringing. No relationship in marriage

I have been married for over a decade. We have a child, but my husband seems to be least bothered about his upbringing. Also there is no relation between my husband and me. We hardly even talk. Should I stay in this marriage for our son?

Hi Writer, thank you for reaching out to us. I'm sorry to hear that your relationship with your husband has not been good. When you say there isn't a relationship between your husband and you, could you tell me what you mean by that other than the lack of communication? And how long have you been feeling this distance?

Rebellious teenage daughter. Husband non cooperative and I'm becoming bad mother!

Problems with daughter's behavior. Husband non cooperative. Want to be good papa, does not want to be strict. Naturally I become bad Mumma. I have certain health issues. I have an elder son. Once upon a time he was also ruthless rude arrogant stubborn. Today my daughter is completely out of...

Hello, Thank you for writing in to us. I understand you are going through a difficult time with your teenage daughter. You feel no one listen's to you or values you. You feel your husband wants to be in the good books of the children and that's why doesn't say anything. You mentioned that your elder son also behaved liked this earlier and I assume now he is manageable. Do you think your daughter too will grow up and behave better? Do you think her behaviour these days could be result of she being a teenager and all teenagers go through the phase of rebel? Trust me, its a...
Parenting Asked by female, 36 years. married

My 6 year old son doesn't do homework, gets distracted easily!

I have a 6 years old son who doesn't pay attention when we ask him to do his homework. He does start doing his homework but gets distracted easily. I have to remind him every 5 mins to concentrate in his homework which makes me feel angry and I get frustrated. What should I do?

Hi there! Thank you for reaching out. I can imagine how frustrating it must be. At 6 years though, children do not fully understand why doing homework is important or the consequence of not doing it. Naturally, as a parent we take responsibility of making them do it. Many times this itself becomes a problem. Firstly, when we take responsibility, we tend to push, nag, punish and argue. We also tend to get angry and irritable which makes homework look like a burden to both the child and us. Secondly, when we try to "make" the child do something, it becomes a war of exerting control between...
Parenting Asked by female, 35 years. married

7-year-old does not do as he is told

Hello.I m really worried abt my kids behaviour. He is baby boy of 7 yrs old. He is too much naughty. He never listen anything. Wanna to do whatever he wants.

Hi :) First, I'd like to appreciate you for taking the first step and writing to us. Its not easy to admit that there may be an issue with our child's behaviour. You have shown a lot of courage by expressing this concern. All moms have a tendency to think of their kids as babies, regardless of what age they are. But your son is a young child of 7 years now. Which means that he is at an age to start differentiating between right and wrong behaviour. Now what we would have to do is identify what the problem behaviour is, and how we can replace it with appropriate behaviour. Probably...
Parenting Asked by male, 36 years. married

3.5 year old kid gets angry easily and shouts

My kids 3.5 years become angry for every issue and shouts for 15 to 30 minutes. ..the more we try to convince the more he shouts and is very painful to me ...

Dear Parent It is extremely important to understand that anger is just expression, where child is trying to communicate something to adults, there is no other way of expressing anger that he has learnt so far. Here to begin with you need to understand rather than explain. There are few observations you need to make for the same 1) Does this anger outbursts take place in all the setting child might be present in, like school, home and any other place he visits day to day basis? it is consistent throughout? 2) list down all the Issues's/ triggers for which he reacts in this way? 3) are...
Parenting Asked by female, 30 years. married

Tips to find time for myself after birth of baby

I am unable to find time for myself after the birth of my baby, who is now 9 months old. Any tips?

Dear Parent Its lovely to notice that you understand only by taking good care of yourself you can take care of others, which many new moms forget. The first thing to do is help heal your body, by eating right, choosing right kind of exercise and having enough Rest. Building really good support system is equally important which might have other new parents, make sure you talk to them about things you are facing and vice versa, sometimes we get great solutions from these support systems. Make sure your expectation from yourself is realistic, be it about your job, housework or even pre-baby...
Parenting Asked by female, 46 years. married

Need help for rebellious teenage daughter

Hi.i hv been married for last 23 yrs. Never had a good relations with my husband. He has been jobless fr nearly 18 yrs. I hv 2 kids. A son who just completed his engineering this yr and my daughter is studying mass media. My problem is that recently i discovered my daughter smokes n drinks. She...

Dear parent, i am sure you have gone through a lot and so has your daughter, when we talk about her having lot of friends who are male, then let me assure you it is completely normal, she has right to choose gender of person who she wants to be friends with, and if that means more boys, be it so, it should not bother you unless you feel friends are harmful to her, she will end up in some serious trouble because of them, irrespective of their gender. when you say, she feels she is not doing anything wrong i assume you have already tried speaking with her about it. Making her feel that she...
Parenting Asked by female, 32 years. married

How to teach my 6-year-old good sportsmanship?

Hi, I have a 6 year old son. He is a good extrovert child, makes friends easily and like to play with everyone. However, lately I have noticed that every game he plays (be it badminton, race with kids, Ludo at home), he just likes to win it which is good in some way, however, what worries me...

Dear parent, Its amazing to see an active parent like you who is concerned about developing healthy attitude in your child towards competitions, to get down to solution I believe it is important to understand it first. I often feel in our society we end up conveying mixed messages to our children about competition, on one hand where we want them to learn about enjoying the process of competition and focus on dealing with failure in a healthy way, be it games or studies, on another we want them to succeed at everything and be achievers. It is important that we get some clarity on this...
Parenting Asked by female, 34 years. married

6-year-old has trouble concentrating on homework

I have a 6 year old son who doesn't pay attention when we ask him to do his homework. He does start doing his homework but gets distracted easily. I have to remind him every 5 mins to concentrate in his homework which makes me feel angry and I get frustrated. What should I do?

Hi, first I would ask if this is only limited to homework or extends to other areas where your son cannot sustain concentration. If you do notice the same pattern even while playing games, or watching a show, or even having a conversation. I would suggest seeking help, where psychologists can evaluate him in person. However, if the case is only with his homework these are a few tips you could adopt to help him focus better: 1. Set a specific time to do homework and keep to the timings. If he does not keep to the timings, take away some activity he likes doing like tv time or game time....
Parenting Asked by female, 26 years. single

How to spend quality time with kids over the weekend?

I'm very busy whole week and hardly get few hours to spend with children on weekends. How do I spend the most quality time with them in that duration? I'm sometimes confused if I watch a movie or play a sport or tell them a story or do what that brings me closer to them and make them happiest.

Quality time as know is not measured by hrs. Instead it the way both the children and the parent enjoy being in each other's presence and respect each other. It is that you do what your children wanted and not what you can do for the children .. Gadgets and other materials are bought for them because u hv more arning power and to boast ur ego. Later the same gadgets are the trouble masters who are more important than you for your children.