Sometimes two people have to fall apart to realize how much they needed to fall back together
Do you really want your ex girlfriend back because you love her or is it because your ego was hurt during the breakup?
There are those who thought they wanted their girlfriend back in the beginning. They would do all the work for days, weeks, months, and even years.
Then, when they hear from their girlfriend, they realize that they really don’t want her back anymore. In the end, they decided she is not worth it and they chose to move on during the journey.
So make sure you want her back for all the right reasons, and not because you’re hurt and you bruised your ego. Because if this is all ego, you will realize in the end that you don’t really want her back to you and you are simply wasting your time.
Winning your ex back isn’t really the hard part. The hard part is keeping them.
After all, they left you once, what is to stop them from leaving you again?
What is the point of getting your ex back if you can’t keep them PERMANENTLY?
Here are the 5 very effective methods that’ll help you unite with your ex girlfriend back.
This process takes time
This process takes time. You can’t think positive and expect results to happen right away. You can’t think of being in a relationship with your girlfriend and expect her to appear by your side and BE your girlfriend, although sometimes you will hear from her right away. This is how powerful thoughts are.
If you want to speed things up, you need to do the work of visualizing what you want. The more positive and intense your thoughts, the more quickly the results will come.
And the more you ignore your current reality and live in your mind, the more quickly the results will come.
If you let your reality affect your thoughts and feelings, then you will slow the process down.
You don’t need to let her go
There’s no need to let her go. There’s no need to give up. You just need to stop your obsession, and stop doubting that you will get her back.
You need to let go of the need to control her and the situation. There’s nothing to control except your mind.
If you can’t stop thinking about her, do some guided meditation or go out with your friends or keep yourself busy. In fact, why don’t you start new hobbies?
The more you think of her, the more opportunity for negative thoughts to come up. It’s better to think of her for 1 to 5 minutes as long as the thoughts are purely positive.
Your thoughts are the only truth
Always keep in mind that your thoughts are the only truth and the only reality. You shouldn’t let your current reality affect you.
You can do this by having 100% control of your thoughts.
Whatever negative news and things you see related to your girlfriend, ignore them. They are the results of your past thoughts about her and your situation.
Instead, spend time creating new thoughts.
Focus on yourself and on feeling good!
When you are too focused on getting your ex back, you don’t really trust that you will be reunited again. If you want to happen it right away by stressing over the results or trying to look for signs everywhere or analyzing everything that she does on social media, you are operating from the place of fear. You fear that she might be dating someone else, or you fear that she has completely moved on, that’s why you can’t stop checking on her! Your mind becomes preoccupied by what she does, who she is with, what she’s doing, and so on.
If you think you will never be happy on your own and will only be happy with her, you’re setting yourself up for a big failure. Because what this means exactly is you are afraid that she might leave you for good, or that he has completely moved on with his life without you, and forget about you.
But if you are happy and content with your everyday life, and you choose to be happy on your own, you will vibrate happiness, joy, and contentment.
So you need to focus on you — on becoming whole again, and on becoming great again. Nobody can do this for you but you! If you want to feel great, no one can feel great for you except you! It’s like wanting to have a massage so you can relax and instead of you going to the massage place, you send a friend to get the massage. You will never get the benefits of the massage — your friend will!
1. Reconnect with your ex girlfriend
You have to text her (it’s better to text than to call) in such a way that her prediction goes all wrong. Just say a simple ‘Hi, How are you doing?’. Do not rush into commitments or anything, take it slow. Now, at this stage all you want is to just be a good friend to your ex. That’s the goal of the first stage. So, talk to her in such a manner that she doesn’t suspect you for ‘getting back together’. The key: Keep texting her just like how you’d text one of your buddies. Visualize her as a friend rather than an ex girlfriend. Keep it slow and steady, keep doing like this for about a month. You’ll come to know exactly when she starts trusting you again and when your instincts tell you that you have won her trust and confidence and that you have proved to her, you are no longer the ‘OLD BOYFRIEND’, and that you are a totally different person now than she has visualized you to be.
2.Take it slow
Take it slow, do not rush when it comes to talking to your ex. Your ex girlfriend is a known stranger to you. She knows you, so You should do stuffs which she cannot predict. Like, if you are texting her she might think that you want her and so might not talk to you at all. Now, here’s where the real challenge is, you have to play a “MIND GAME’ with your girlfriend. You romanced her once already, but that doesn’t mean you get to go from zero to 60 without even getting behind the wheel. So propose getting together—not moving in together. Says Seattle-resident Adria, who took her ex back after a nasty breakup: “He apologized out of the blue after three months of no contact and was very respectful of me. He wasn’t pushy about getting back together, which would have been a red flag in my eyes.”
3. Make her feel special
In this second stage, you still have to put the friend mask on. BE PATIENT. Now, as a good friend of her you have to make her feel special and that she is the “queen of all worlds”(Trust me, girls love that feeling, especially from their ex boyfriends). Now,here’s where a lot of the guys make the huge mistake, that can ruin everything up! You start becoming romantic when we tell you to make her feel special!! That is utterly wrong. Most of the guys end up gifting a romantic gift, a bouquet of roses or a ring when we ask them to make their girl fell special. Rather, you can gift a small miniature, or a hand written letter, or anything that she loves, like a pizza too can do wonders. It’s very important to make her feel comfortable and cozy when she’s with you. That way, she feels secure and she’ll tend to have a great outlook on you and then you can carry on with the third stage of winning her back.
4. Hangout with your ex
If you’ve done your homework correctly, you will be oozing confidence and attractiveness out of every inch of your body. And this works doubly as effective on your ex than any other person. Why? Because they were already attractive to you at one point in time. And you are not a stranger to them. You are someone familiar who looks very attractive.The best way to ask them out is to give them a call. It’s possible they might require a slight push. A simple “come on, it’ll be fun.” Or “Hey, it’s just coffee. What’s the harm?” should be sufficient. However, don’t go overboard in pushing them. Like ”Come on. Just go out with me once. Please. Pretty please.” Or “You broke up with me and broke my heart. The least you can do is go out with me one time.”Remember, your ex doesn’t owe you anything. You have to treat them like an acquaintance you want to get close with.
5. Getting your ex girlfriend back
This is the final stage to win your ex girlfriend back. Ideally, you want it to be your ex’s idea to get back together. You just want to be yourself (attractive, fun, happy, and awesome). Do not talk about your past relationship or your breakup. It will lead to no good. That relationship is over and when you both get back together, it will be a new relationship. There is no point digging old graves when you want to start a new life. At this final stage, your ex girlfriend would have already fallen in love with you and she’ll slowly begin to express her feelings for you. However, There’s a high chance that she’s waiting for you to approach her first. However, you have to be very cautious if she’s in love with you and waiting for you begin the saga of an HAPPILY EVER AFTER.