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Husband is immature, emotionally abusive, toxic person, nothing makes him happy. He drags me down with his bad mood

Asked by Female, 68, Married
I have been married for 50 years and facing difficulty because of immature, toxic and irritating behavior of husband. My husband who is basically a good man but very different as husband. He is totally unable to show love or affection and is emotionally abusive never physically though. Nothing makes him happy and he drags me down with his constant bad moods. He is constantly finding fault and cribbing. He has this terrible habit of talking loudly in a irritated manner. I find as I get older I can no longer tolerate his behavior. What should I do?
Thumb sneha jayagopal

Dear Writer, thank you for writing to us. I understand you are frustrated and upset regarding your husband's behavior. Your tolerance of his habits and nature has reduced over the years and you can no longer bear it. There are two ways to go about this. Either carry on the way you have been and accept your husband for the way he is or you consider changes that need to be made by both of you. Both will involve some amount of discomfort and pain. You have to decide what you are up for and what you need for yourself at this point in your life and we will take it forward from there. Could you also tell me more about yourself as an individual?
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