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Frequent fights due to disagreement of my wife for staying duration in each other's homes.

Asked by Male, 33, Married
I am facing trivial issues in my marriage. I am married for one and a half year. The issues vary from a stay at each other's home during holidays and shouting at each other. In a month, I am planning to spend 5 days at my in-law's place as my mother needs some emotional support. My wife says that in such a duration, I should spend at least 10 days at her parent's home as she is the only daughter. In addition, my in-laws are also coming to my place and we have a trip planned at nearby locations to my place for 4-5 days. In the overall scheme of things, my wife is only spending 10 days at my place and 20 days at hers. This may sound trivial but has mushroomed into a big issue. Kindly give me a neutral opinion on this issue.
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Dear Writer, thank you for writing in. Whether trivial or not, if it's affecting your relationship then it's important. Why do you think keeping a score on how many days each person is spending with either family has become such a big issue? Is there more to it or is it about fairness?
Could you also tell me more about your relationship with your wife and the relationship you both share with either set of parents?
Answering this will help me understand your situation better and help you accordingly.
Please message back to continue discussing. I am here to help. Regards

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