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How to convince parents to allow me to marry my sister's elder brother-in-law?

Asked by Female, 28, Single
I am a 28 years old female in relationship with 10 years elder guy who's now 39 and he is my elder sis's elder bro in law, this is the problem why my parents are not fine with it but I don't want to miss him still fighting for it' its actually 10 years we are in relation together. Please help me out how to convince my mom and get married to himn
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Kiran Lakhani
Counselling Psychologist

Hi,As I understand, you are in a relationship with a relative of yours who is elder to you and your family knows about it. And you have tried to convince them but have not succeeded yet.I assure you you are not the first one going through such a situation. There are many who go through such phase. Is age the only concern of your parents? If yes, give them time to get adjusted to this fact. If you and your boyfriend are serious about it and tell them that you are not going to marry anyone else, then eventually they will come around. But in case that is not the only reason, you need to give reasons for each of their concerns, and a assurance that you both will be able to handle those things.Both of you talking together with your families and assuring them will help more than you alone trying to angrily convince them. But for this, both of you need to be sure and be on the same page before talking to your families.Don't loose hope. I hope this helps.All the best.

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