No sex in marriage. Husband wants to prove I am worthless!

Dear Writer, thank you for writing in. I understand that your situation is frustrating and hurtful for you. Love, intimacy, respect and trust are extremely important in a relationship and you are entitled to expect the same from your partner. You are doing everything you can to help your situation and you need your partner to meet you halfway as well. Do you wonder if he had any reservations to this marriage? At this point whatever the reservation, if it doesn't seem to be coming from you then you have to ask yourelf, what is holding your husband back? Ask yourself, does he seem happy to be around you? Does your presence trigger him negatively even though you aren't doing anything to particularly upset him? Making him happy is not in your hands if he doesn't want to partake. How do you communicate your feelings and issues with him? Even though he hasn't responded, do you think that changing tactics might work for you? Perhaps instead of saying "I have a problem..." Could you try, "I can see that you are unhappy and I wonder if our marriage has anything to do with it?" You could try putting the focus on his feelings and he might want to talk to you then. This is a new relationship and it hasn't gotten off to a great start, but that need not define your future. You can suggest that you could both could start with atleast being friendly. It does help to set an ultimatum as well. And if you want to be treated with respect, then treat yourself with respect too. You can't possibly keep doing things to appease your husband if you don't get feel good about it and if you don't get any validation from him. You could tell him calmly that you are reconsidering you interest in the relationship and see how he responds. That might give you a cue to what you need to do next. Do not be disheartened. Please message back to continue our discussion.