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Wife distanced herself after childbirth and refuses to come back to me

Asked by Male, 35, Married
My wife refuses to come back home after childbirth. She has also distanced herself away from me.
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Komal
Counseling Psychologist

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help.

It seems that you are facing difficulty in your marriage. After having your child, your wife moved to her parent's house and since then you feel that she is drifting away from you in this relationship. She does not seem interested in taking your calls and also does not allow you to see your daughter even on phone.

I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to be in, away from your wife and your daughter.

Firstly, I would appreciate the courage in you for being able to manage so far. I can imagine that all these months must surely not have been easy for you to manage alone.

Also, could you tell me a little more about you and your wife as individuals? What do you both do, your daily routine, likes and dislikes?
Your marriage- was it an arranged or love marriage? Since how long have you both been married? How has your marriage been so far for the both of you?
You mentioned that your wife moved to her parent's house after she delivered your baby. Is she still living there or has she come back to living with you? Does she plan to come back? If so, when? Have you both discussed these plans?
What apart from her not picking up your calls sometimes makes you feel that she is drifting away from you?
What according to you are or could be the reason she does not show your daughter to you over the phone? Have you talked to her about this? What does she have to say?
Answering these questions would help me understand your situation better and enable me to help you better.

Secondly, how would you like me to help you with your situation? What is it that you are hoping to seek through this counselling process?

Please respond back to continue our discussion. Looking forward to hearing from you.
Warm regards.

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