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Husband is unfaithful and abusive, son wants parents together. Advice?

Asked by Female, 40, Married
Hello... I m totally shattered i have failed marriage and my husband abuses me n my family. He has cheated me too. I have son who is 10 years old. All this started after the birth of my son. My son wants both of us to be together. I m staying in this relationship just because of my son.Pls advise.i m shattered n broken
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Madhuri Mohan
Counselling Psychologist

Hi, I cannot imagine the trauma that you have been suffering for all these years. You must be a really brave lady to have endured this pain for the past 10 years and coming out now and sharing this, could not have been easy. being in an abusive relationship is not healthy and I am sure you must have seen it take a toll on your health. However, I understand that your son is the main concern here. While a divorce may impact your child and your concerns are valid, it may not be healthy for your son to grow up in a toxic environment where he sees your husband abusing you all the time. My suggestion is to first seek professional help to heal yourself. You are currently gone through a lot and need counselling over a period of time to mentally heal yourself, then you will have the strength to make an informed decision and do what is best for you and your son. If you wish to talk about this further feel free to send me a private message and we can take it from there. Just know that you are not alone and you don't have to suffer this trauma all alone. We are there to comfort and help you get through this difficult phase. 

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