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Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 22 years. in_relationship

My bf of 3 years is cheating from last 1 year and is now going to marry her. I'm not able to leave him

Hi, My bf of 3 years is cheating from last 1 year and is now going to marry that girl. what should I do? I don't want to stay with him, but I am not being able to leave him

Your boyfriend clearly does not value loyalty in this relationship nor does he value you, but you already know that. You were letting him take advantage of you and he could afford to do so as he knew this well too. You say that you don't want to stay with him but at the same time you're not able to let go of him as well. First thing first, is this what you want? If yes, go ahead. If not, is it getting you any closer to what you eventually want? If yes, go ahead. If not, stop yourself from pursuing short term benefits and taking the easier road. It is difficult, but no one said it was...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 33 years. married

Sexless marriage, unable to trust compulsively cheating husband

I have caught my husband chatting secretly with other women online many times and I do not trust him any more. We have a sexless marriage.

Your heart and trust has been broken by your husband. More so, it has not healed completely yet. You still are not sure about your husband's loyalty towards you as this has taken place many times behind your back. To worsen it, there is no intimacy left in your marriage. It takes time and is a painful journey and a difficult process to recover and restore a relationship that has undergone infidelity. I can imagine your pain and agony. To begin with, it would help for you to ask yourself if you see yourself giving this marriage a chance or not. If you do think it might be possible...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 38 years. married

Feeling hurt after catching husband cheating on me

I caught my husband cheating on me and he promised not to repeat it. But I cannot get over the hurt.

One enters into marriage with dreams of hoping to start a new journey with their partner that is filled with love and happiness. For a happy and successful marriage, both partners need to be equally invested to work towards it. With the foundation of the marriage itself, trust and commitment, not in place, this is certainly not why someone enters into a marriage. I can imagine your pain and agony. Before moving on any further, ask yourself if you are willing at all to give a chance to this marriage or not. Also try to figure out if your husband is willing to do the same. If either of you...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by male, 34 years. married

Wife's inability to trust causing marital issues

My wife is unable to trust me and she feels that I am cheating on her when I get friendly with anybody.

Trust is the basic pillar of a marriage. With that not in place, the foundation built upon that is shaky. There are various reasons for why someone is unable to trust their partner: previous experience of being cheated on/ having cheated childhood experience of observing lack of trust in relationships or the reason for the same personality trait of not being able to trust someone influence of media/ peer groups behaviour of the other that gives reasons for doubt unacceptable to the fact that opposite sex can be friends Try to figure out what your wife's reasons are and then when...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 32 years. married

Short-tempered spouse, suspected infidelity

My short-tempered husband has stopped speaking to me after I suspected him of cheating with his married ex-girlfriend.

Dealing with a short tempered person is itself not easy to begin with. To top it, you suspect him to be cheating on you with his ex who is now married. Since then he seems to have stopped talking with you. To begin with, try to explore what made him stop talking with you. Is he hurt by you doubting on him or is it that he indeed is cheating on you and thus is trying to stay away from you to avoid further mess? Ask yourself is he really cheating or is it your insecurities playing out? To help you figure that, I am sharing with you an article that you might find...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by male, 28 years. in_relationship

Lying to partner to spare her feelings, she mistrusts and avoids me

I lie to my girlfriend to spare her feelings. She mistrusts me and tries to avoid me when she is in the company of her friends. We are about to be married.

You feel that you have lied to your girlfriend about certain things in order to avoid dealing with worsened situations had she known the truth. Now you both are to be married but it has come to a point where you think that she does not trust you as much which has caused her to avoid you, more so when her friends are around. With the marriage coming closer, her lack of trust in you bothers you and it hurts even more to have her avoid you, especially in front of others. Your intention to spare your girlfriend is understandable, however, it is important that you know that it is not your place...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 0 years. married

Spouse lies about spending time with a girl, financially supports her. Indication of physical relationship?

My husband lied to me about spending time with a woman after office hours. He supported her financially as well until I objected. He says he lied because I would get angry and suspect him of being unfaithful. Does this indicate that he has a sexual relationship with her?

His explanation doesn't make a possibility mutually exclusive. Things can seem a certain way strongly as long as you're speculating. The fact that your husband stopped supporting her financially after you objected indicates a different outcome but the fact that he lied to you about this situation indicates otherwise. I think voicing your displeasure about his actions more articulately would serve as a step to setting boundaries in your marriage. The next thing to consider talking to him about would be his expectations from your marriage. It maybe possible that because he feels that your...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 35 years. married

Want to leave cheating husband, staying for baby

I want to leave my cheating spouse but I am unable to do so because of our baby daughter. What should I do?

One enters into marriage with dreams of hoping to start a new journey with their partner that is filled with love and happiness. For a happy and successful marriage, both partners need to be equally invested to work towards it. With the foundation of the marriage itself, trust and commitment, not in place, this is certainly not why someone enters into a marriage. I can imagine your pain and agony. Before moving on any further, ask yourself if you are willing at all to give a chance to this marriage or not. Also try to figure out if your husband is willing to do the same. If either of you...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 35 years. married

Unable to overcome hurt of husband's extra-marital affair

I caught my spouse cheating on me with his colleague and he confessed and is sorry about it. But I feel very hurt and I want to end the marriage. I dont feel like living anymore.

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. It seems that you are facing difficulty in your marriage. Getting to know of your husband's infidelity has caused you a lot of pain so much so that you feel depressed to an extent where the thought of ending your life has also crossed your mind. Although your husband feels guilt and remorse but you are finding it difficult to forget it and the thought has become unbearable for you and you wish to end the marriage. I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to be in. It certainly must not...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by male, 46 years. married

Unable to stop wife's affair with colleague

I found out last month that my wife of 20 years with 2 children age 15 & 13, is having extramarital affair with an ex-colleague. I discussed with both of them and they agreed to stop immediately. She told me that she wants to work on this marriage but she cannot stop talking to him abruptly to...

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. It seems that you are facing difficulty in your marriage. You recently found out about your wife's affair which has been devastating for you. You also confronted with both of them regarding this and tried to stop it immediately but your wife seems to have a different opinion on this. Her behaviours have made you suspicious of her continuing the affair despite your efforts to stop it. I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to be in after 20 years of marriage and two children involved,...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 32 years. married

Husband secretly chatting with another woman

My husband chats with another woman secretly when I am not at home but when I am around he ties to show me that he loves me. How do I get my husband back without chasing him?

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. It seems that you are facing difficulty in your marriage. It disturbs and bothers you that your husband talks to other women in your absence but when you are present he tries to convince you of his love for you. You also do not want to be too clingy in wanting to bring him back. I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to be in. Firstly, I would appreciate the courage in you for being able to manage so far. I can imagine that this must have been very hard for you. Could you tell me a...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 43 years. married

Verbally abused by husband if I confront him about preference for female colleagues

My husband prefers chatting with his female colleagues instead of me. He locks his phone and laptop. If I confront him about his behavior, he verbally abuses me.

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. It seems that you are facing difficulty in your marriage with regard to your husband's behaviours. He does not seem to carry out responsibilities towards his family, gives more importance to other colleagues and maintains passwords on all his gadgets. I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to be in since his behaviours seem to upset and disturb you. You are uncomfortable with his interactions with female colleagues and when you confront him, he humiliates and abuses you. This must be...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by others, 38 years. married

Husband is having an affair but I want him back

My husband is cheating on me but I want him back.

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. It seems that you are facing difficulty in your marriage. I understand that it must be a difficult position for you to have found out about your husband's infidelity. Firstly, I would appreciate the courage in you for being able to manage so far. I can imagine how devastating this must have been for you and it certainly is not easy to handle such big news. Could you tell me a little bit about yourself and your husband as individuals? How long have you been married? Was it an arranged marriage or a...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by male, 33 years. single

I am confused after knowing classmate cum colleague of my fiancee proposed her recently!

I am a 30 years old man. I recently got engaged a couple of months back and will soon be getting married. I learnt post engagement, that my to-be wife was recently approached by a boy for marriage. They are colleagues at work, and he proposed my fiancee at work and asked for marriage, despite of...

Hi Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes great courage to reach out for help. From what I gather, it seems that you are finding it difficult to feel secure in your relationship with your fiancé since there is a different guy who has approached her for her hand in marriage, just before you were to be engaged to her, of which you discovered only post your engagement. Your fiancé kept this from you to avoid causing you pain. It is understandable that you feel worried given that you both live in different cities and that your girl and the guy have known each other for a long time and...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 26 years. in_relationship

My bf cheated on me. Not able to trust him again

I am suffering from anxiety n depression. I was cheated in my relationship. I'm giving it another chance but I don't feel the same anymore. He says is guilty for what happened but I'm still not ready to accept it.

Dear Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and ask for help. I understand you are going through a very difficult time in your relationship. Your boyfriend cheated on you and although you have decided to give him another chance, you are still hurting from it. The relationship doesn't feel the same anymore even though he feels guilty about his actions. This has caused you anxiety and depression and you want to feel better. To understand you better and help you accordingly, could you tell me more about yourself as an individual? How long have you been in...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 31 years. married

Husband's cheating killing me everyday but not able to separate for my child

Married for 5 years with a daughter aged 2 years. Husband works in a bank. It was a love marriage. 6 months ago I started having doubt that my hubby is having an affair. First he denied but then accepted that he was seeing this girl, it just broke me. I almost decided to move out but he cried a...

Hi Writer, thank you for reaching out to us. I'm sure it's not easy to talk about what you've been going through. I'm sure it's been very emotionally hurtful to you and makes it very difficult to trust your husband again. Are you struggling more with trust or hurt by his betrayal and therefore feel the need to do something hurtful to him as well?
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 0 years. single

My mom's extra-marital affair has created havoc in family. Dad is off balanced, silent, abusive, tends to be busy

My mom had extramarital affair and my father came to know about it last year. Even though she has confessed everything, she cries on daily basis, there is no positive change in my father. He is quite off balance, puts himself into work, doesn't talk much, doesn't eat much, and gets abusive with...

Dear Writer, it must be difficult and painful to have to witness your parents' relationship fall apart. I understand you and your brother have tried everything to make them sort it out. Now the fact is that this situation is not in your control therefore the feeling of helplessness. Both your parents have to be inclined and willing to work on their marriage. I'm guessing there might have been some existing problems which may have led to your mother having an affair. How would you like me to help you? We can either focus on what you are going through emotionally as a result of this...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 54 years. married

I think my husband is cheating, he blames and ignores me

I doubt my husband because he uses different sites for chatting. I don't trust him when I ask him he blames me. I am 54 years but from the first night, he starts raising his hands on every problem. He ignores me.

Dear Writer, thank you for writing to us. You have shown courage in reaching out and taking this step. I understand you are concerned and upset over the state of your marriage. What sort of sites is he chatting on and have you come across inappropriate messages in these chats? Could you also tell me for how long have you been married and when did the problems start? Answering these questions will help me understand your situation and guide you accordingly. Please message back to continue discussing. Regards
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by male, 43 years. married

Seeking help in bringing back trust and intimacy in our marriage

I am a 43-year old man, I am married for 16 years and we have 2 children aged 12 and 10. My wife and I met 9 years prior to getting married. Even before marriage, we were intensely committed to one another several years, however, the passion reduced after the marriage (in fact, right after the...

Dear Writer, thank you for writing in. It takes courage to reach out and take this step. I understand you want to work on rebuilding trust and intimacy in your relationship. It's commendable that you understand where the problem lies and what you need work on to ensure you don't turn to someone else to fulfil your needs. Now reduced or no sexual intimacy between a married couple after marriage is more common than you think. It has a lot to do with changes in one's life, responsibilities taking precedence over intimacy and just the fizzling out of excitement post marriage. Although...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by male, 33 years. married

My wife is saying her affair is over, but I can't trust

My wife is having an affair. She says that her affair is over but I know she is lying. I don't wanna leave her cause I love her a lot but my anger is a big issue in this since I know the truth I keep on fighting with her what shall I do?

Thank you for writing in. It does take tremendous courage to be open about your crisis. To ensure we are working towards a productive solution, can you help me first understand what you mean by 'depression'. The reason I ask is that it is alright to feel 'low' under your circumstances. However, if you have symptoms of clinical depression, that needs to be addressed by a qualified physician and addressed urgently. I can recommend the person you should see. Beyond that, I can work with you towards making decisions. We have to be very clear about what has happened in the past and...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 29 years. single

I recently found out that my lover is already married

I am 29yrs old. I completed degree and working in mnc. My partner(31 yrs) who working in another country. Four Years back we started loved each other. Still we are loving and want to live our life together. When I started to love life goes like anything and I was fly like anything else as...

Dear Writer, thank you writing to us. It takes courage to take this step. I understand you feel uncertain of what to do but from what you have written I gather that you know what you are getting into. You understand the complications of the relationship you are in. You could get married but you know it won't be considered legal since he is not divorced nor is he planning for one. It seems as though you understand his situation and are willing to fight for him. I wonder if he is willing to do the same for you? Will he choose you over his family? Could you also tell me how you found out that...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 37 years. married

infidelity issues

Hello, I had a love marriage, it's been six years that my husband doesn't share much, but he looks for friends to share especially female and recently he had an affair with his teammate who was just 23yrs. He is 37, he said she made him feel good but why he does it? kindly help

Dear Writer, Thank you for writing in. It does take tremendous courage to be open about your concerns and you should be proud that you are taking the first (and most difficult) step towards resolving it. You know it is challenging to change another person’s behaviour. However it is possible to work closely with you to help make the decisions towards resolving it. Although you have been clear about your situation, could you help me understand the top 3 concerns you need addressed? Articulating your concerns in a precise and tangible manner will help us develop a focused approach....
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 29 years. married

I feel my husband is cheating on me.

I have trust issues with my spouse. I want to believe he doesn't cheat on me but lately he has been lying a lot Nd staying out late night in the name of helping his friend and his fiance with their relationship issues. I have only met these friends once and know about their issues through my...

Dear Writer, thank you for writing in. Firstly congratulations on your pregnancy although it had been a stressful one. I understand you are struggling to trust your husband even though he may not have cheated on you. I think considering your state you naturally expect and hope that your husband would want to spend more time with you. Can you tell me whether it has always been like this or if your husband's constant socialising more recent? Can you tell me what his reaction to your pregnancy was? Answering these questions will help me understand your situation better. To get to the heart of...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 36 years. married

I doubt my husband is cheating on me

I am 36 yrs old .My husband is 38yrs old .Our is arranged marriage .I got married in 2002. It's being 15yrs . We seen very up & downs in our married life. But from August things changed.My father in law expired in august. After those 12 days .Once I checked my husband Phone.I shocked by seeing...

Dear Writer, thank you for writing in. Whether or not you think you are over-possessive, the important point here is that you are not able to trust your husband. To feel like your trust was broken can really hurt. So the important matter is, what do you think is going on? Just to clarify, do you normally make a habit of checking your husband's phone? Although you said that after your father in law's demise you came across these messages, had any incident like this occurred before as well that made you question your trust and check his phone? Are you aware of who this other person or is...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 35 years. married

My husband did second marriage without my consent. He hides our marriage from his family!

My husband got married from last one year with his relationship girl without informing me and my family. Only his family know about his second marriage. My husband's family does not know me and our marriage from last 7 years. My parents and my whole society know about me and my husband marriage....

Dear writer, thank you writing to us. I understand you are stressed and very hurt with what has happened. You have been married for 7 years but your husband's family doesn't know of it. Can you tell me why your in- laws don't know about you and how you feel about it? Your husband has married a second time without your consent but his family knows about this marriage. I am unclear about this situation so to understand it better could you tell me a little bit more about yourself, your background/ religion, any children maybe? Was your marriage legal / official? I understand you feel cheated...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by male, 25 years. single

Girlfriend cheated on me, parents arranging our marriage. But can't trust her!

My girlfriend cheated on me. She had relationships with other guys. She had sex chat with them when I thought she was committed. When I came to know all about this, she cried and begged me that it happened on the initial days and she was not serious about our relationship then. She is saying that...

Hi there. I am sorry to hear about this. You must feel angry and cheated. Can you answer some questions so I can understand your situation a little better?
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 28 years. married

Long-distance marriage, husband confronted about cheating and wants me to forgive. But I can't trust him back

It's been two years that I got married. My husband has been working in abroad for past two years, and I am in home town. Recently he was back to home on a vacation, and accidentally I came across messages containing conversations with a girl. The conversations clearly indicated that they both...

Dear Writer, I appreciate your having written in. I understand that you are having a hard time trusting your husband and your reasons perfectly justify your fears. Trust is the foundation of any relation and once broken can be very hard to rebuild. How was your relationship prior to your finding out about his indiscretions? Now having said that, the question remains what do you want to do? You had to go through a painful experience and whether you healed from it or not is for you to answer. Either way you fear getting hurt again by your husband and have pulled back to protect yourself....
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 22 years. single

I am in love with my close friend, he has habits of flirting and ditched me.

About a few weeks ago I was involved with a guy from our friend's circle. It was fun and exciting since we both seemed to be attracted to each other and I was looking forward to things progressing. We had already known each other as friends for 3 months. I trusted him enough to get involved with...

Hey, First and foremost let me tell you that you are a courageous person. As you have expressed very well what you are experiencing. I can understand you are feeling like, if only there was a time machine and you could go back to that moment and you could say NO if it is just for fun. You are beating yourself inside and feeling thoroughly let down and feel cheated. I would say yes you are hurting, and I can see that you also feel you have learnt your lesson. Every situation happens in life for us to learn something. Sometimes there are small incidences which lessons which come to...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 28 years. single

"Relationship that was on for 10 years has faced a toll due to trust issues"

Hello, I have been in a relationship with a guy for the past 10 years. He happens to be one of my closest friends. While we have strong feelings for each other, he had made it very clear much before that we may not have a future together due to his family's stand against inter-caste marriages. ...

Hi there. I am so sorry that you had to go through this phase without much support. I hope you have recovered from the physical trauma. As for the emotional suffering, I see that it has not only hurt and angered you, but has also made you doubt yourself. Sometimes when we are extremely stressed and do not find adequate support and means to cope, we get overwhelmed and develop negative thought patterns. Before I can help you further, please answer the following questions:
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 23 years. single

Possessive about boyfriend. Not able to concentrate on anything else

Hi. I am in a relationship I love my boyfriend very much. He is actually everything for me. But he says he has a friend who is important to him but I don't like her. It also seems like even she doesn't like me. We both had a lot of fight because of her. However now she's got married but still, I...

Dear writer, I appreciate your having written in. I can see that you consider your possessiveness detrimental to your relationship. All possessiveness really boils down to is insecurity and distrust. It might be possible that you feel left out of the equation between your boyfriend and his friend; that although what they share is a special friendship it makes you question the exclusivity of your relationship with your boyfriend. Somewhere along the way you may have stopped feeling valued and maybe that's why the dislike towards this person. Insecurities have a way of getting the better of...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 65 years. married

Disturbed about husband's friendship with female colleagues

I am troubled about my husband's friendships with his female colleagues. I am disturbed and stressed.

Dear Madam – I appreciate you reaching out to express your stress and seek help to handle it. I can understand your mental stress about your husband’s friendship with his female colleagues. You have been married for 43 years and to continue to be in a situation like this disturbs you and affects your day to day functioning. Some additional information would help me understand your situation better.
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 30 years. married

Unable to trust cheating husband who is aggressive and ignores me

My spouse admitted to having an extra-marital affair. However, he does not care about my feelings and behaves aggressively. He is unwilling to stop the affair.

Hi, Thanks for confiding in us and feeling that we would be good to help you out with this situation. You definitely are going through a lot. When you say you feel insecure, that says you are afraid of loosing him and you definitely don't want that to happen. You also mention that yours is a love marriage and you'll are together for last 10 years. That indeed is a very long time that both of you have devoted to your relationship and you obviously won't be happy if any third person interferes. You also say that you'll have regular fight over this. He says he would not talk to her but...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 34 years. married

Worried about losing husband to another woman

I am always suspicious of my husband and I am worried about losing him to another woman. I know he loves me but I am unable to trust him.

Hey, Greetings for the day! What you are experiencing is a regular form of possessiveness when you are in a relationship, but there is a thin line of difference between it looking cute and bad. Now that you know that he loves you, then start trusting and come out of the suspicion that you have for your relationship. How to do it is very simple, have faith on yourself and know that you are everything you would need, and automatically you will feel secure about people around you, in that way you won't be in any doubt on anyone near by you. Thanks.
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 28 years. married

Cannot get over the hurt of spouse cheating on me

I was in a relationship with my husband for eleven years before we got married. However, I discovered him cheating on me. He has asked for forgiveness but I am unable to get over the pain.

Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 24 years. married

Fallen out of love with husband after catching him sexting repeatedly

My husband has repeatedly cheated on me by sexting other women. Now we do not talk to each other, do not sleep together, and get into fights easily.

hi, I can understand what you are going through and feel really sad for you. I appreciate your courage to come forward for help. You need to take a strong decision first, you can't go back and change your life. Decide whether you want him and love him truly or no. once you decide you will have to sit with him and sort out things.
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 22 years. single

Fallen pregnant, dumped by boyfriend after fight

I am 22 years old. Me and my boyfriend had a fight over a 3rd girl few days back and he broke up with me saying that I am very insecure and possesive and he cannot deal with me anymore the next day I found I am pregnant. He still did not turn back and blocked me from evrywhere and went home. He...

Hello, You must be feeling so frustrated and cheated at this moment. Please imagine, I am giving you a warm hug and holding you with all the protection. As you were already dealing with the unexpected behaviour, you got another news regarding your unplanned pregnancy. It must be very tough for you. Let me tell you that life is full of challenges and sometimes we are faced with very unexpected events and situations. At that moment we feel that this is so tough, why did I have to go through this. We feel hurt, angry, betrayed and all the negative emotions surface. We also start...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by male, 26 years. single

I came to know a horrible secret after 2.5 years relationship

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for the past 2.5 years. Today morning I found out a horrible secret.

Hi, As i read your description, i do get sense of shock you have felt because of fact that you have found out in morning, if you feel comfortable please share of what made you so shocked so that we can help you out about it Do write back to us in detail about the same so we can better help you
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 18 years. single

Feel bad or not able to move on after seeing my ex-boyfriend with his new girlfriend

I love someone one very hard then he leave me one day for other girl. I want to move on in my life but every time I see him with his new girlfriend I feel bad. How to get out of it?

Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 30 years. married

Should I trust cheating husband after a sext was found from a girl?

Hello.. my husband had an affair with a girl .. and when he was caught he promised he will nver do such a thing. He also locked his mobile even after i caught him, this incident happened one year back. Now after one year i found a text msg on whatsapp of that girl saying " good morning janeman...

Hi there! Thank you for reaching out. I can imagine the confusion and stress you are going through. At the same time, you seem to be smart and aware of your situation. I understand you want to give your husband the benefit of doubt. But first, ponder over a few points: If you were in this girl's place, would you still be texting those words to a man who had indeed ended his relationship with you a year back? If this relationship ended and your husband has nothing to hide, why is he keeping his phone locked? Does he share his mobile password with you freely or does he flinch if you check his...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 18 years. single

Feeling miserable after cheating on boyfriend

I cheated on my boyfriend.. I feel miserable.. the cheating texts are circulating ... I din mean to do it...it happened in the spur of moments.. my boyfriend wants to get back.. I lost so many ppl.. wat do I do!? I need a solution.. I hav thoughts of self harm.. the pain is unbearable......

Greetings, It takes lot of courage to actually write what you are feeling through and I can see that you are filled with guilt of what happened, and like you said it happened in the spur of moments and it is not necessary to be so hard on yourself. One of the many things that we human beings often forget is to be kind to self and it is okay that you have committed the mistake, but the important thing is that you have the realization of what you did and now that you have to work to make it better. About getting back with your boy friend, that is completely your choice to go ahead with that...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by male, 50 years. married

Wife repeatedly having affairs with other men, feeling broken and suicidal

My wife of 32 year with 2 kids had a relationship with her co worker i warned her to stop it,she agreed and I believed her but 2 years later found out that she was physical with him. We had an argument ,but I forgive her and she left the job . This was 5 years back ,she joined another job .2...

Hi, Thank you for writing to us finally. You have indeed taken this for a very long time and have a very big heart to have forgiven your wife even after learning regarding her physical relationship. And now you are again standing on the same junction as you were five years ago. I am sure you must be very sure of this having happened again and you are not just feeling so traumatised from some false information. It must be very difficult to keep forgiving her and any person would consider divorce as an option to save his self respect. However I would ask you to give this another thought...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 45 years. married

Caught husband cheating but he does not want divorce

Hi am married for 17yrs with 2 children. MY Husband who is a marketing manager went on deputation to shanghai leaving the family. Ther he met one foreign lady in a dating site and was involved with her for 6months .later he shifted to uk but Contin ue to meet that lady on her birthday travelling...

Hi, The things that are mentioned by you, is a series of things that a person who needs to fulfill his bodily needs seek for and so you will find the person reaching out to fulfill his needs repeatedly. Given that you want to protect the family and the marriage has to be saved from both the parties for children's sake at least for the beginning stagesThese are the two things I would like to suggest you:1) Try to increase communication and spend some more time in building the existing relation that you have:Take a walk together every early morning and eveningHave a meal at least every day...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by female, 43 years. married

Habitually cheating husband, unable to work due to spondylitis

Yes, my husband is cheating on me, but he has all the excuses in the world to give. We are been married for twenty years now and he has been in the relationship with his brother's wife since the time his brother passed away in 2005. Actually his sister-in-law had an extra marital affair when her...

Hello, It is really commendable that you have carried in this relationship for so many years. Also good that you have finally decided to take help. It is not surprising that you have all the physical ailments which are due to the constant stress and pressure you have been living in. The first thing to do is take care of your health. Focus in yourself and stop thinking about what is happening with your husband and his morals. Four years of no work is what have caused the other issues of depression and migraine. So being in with the first goal that is take care of your health. There...
Cheating/Trust Issues Asked by male, 50 years. married

Constantly unfaithful wife

Wife habitual unfaithful .what to do ? We have 2 grownup life.

Hi, From your description i understand that you feel that your wife has been unfaithful, if you could write back to us with more details of what do you mean by being unfaithful and describe with incidents we will be able to help you better Do write back to us, so we can help you in depth with it